I started this new job as after school nanny a couple of months ago where I look after 3 boys, 2 boys are 7 and 1 is 10 (2 families as nanny share).
Before me the families had a nanny that stayed with them for 5 years, therefore she had the boys since a very young age, built a great relationship with them, etc, however she left and I accepted the job.
The 10 years old boy didn’t received me well at all, my first 2 weeks were a nightmare with him as he was extremely rude to me... or not talk to me at ALL... or shout at me “shut up”!, kept telling me that his old nanny would cook better, drive better, stopped eating my food, etc, etc, etc.
Talked to his parents that were on my side and had several conversations with him, told me that he was struggling still with the change ( which I obviously understood) but regardless they would not allow him to be rude to me. It has improved slightly until a couple a week ago when I had set a golden rules chart for him with a treat for his good behaviour at the end of the week... and his mother literally gave him the treat he was supposed to work towards on day 1 of the week. He obviously was quick to tell me that he already got it and would not stick with the chart!
Also suddenly every time I would address his behaviour he would just reply saying I don’t care, would not talk to me much, every time I tried to make conversation, he would not reply, or say ok, I know, I know, I know" and walked away...
So I asked mum for a chat a couple of days ago which she said that it is my fault that he is behaving like that towards me that I am new to him, that I didn’t make effort to let him like me, that he was loosing sleep because he has been dreading me on the following day, that I am the only person he speaks in a rude manner, that he doesn’t respect me because I am not able to earn his respect! Literally blaming me! ... that I would feed the children with junk food (absolutely nonsense) ... and other accusations about how I treat/speak with her boy that is causing him emotional distress! ( I was speechless and felt confused, as I never imagined a parent literally that would allow her child to be rude to someone and in fact blame me for her child’s behaviours)
So I was prepared for her to dismiss me, as if I am such horrible nanny how could she allow me to look after her child? But she didn’t!
I don’t want resign because I am paid really well and I have a great bond with the other 2 boys..., but I feel I need to resign because I am worried this may get worse, and worse accusations may arise, etc. Should I resign?
Btw, I am Ofsted registered, degree qualified and have several years experience- this has never happened to me.
Please please share your thoughts!