I am very angry and upset, my au pair doesn’t come to me to tell me about my children, she prefers to talk to my husband. Today I asked her why she is talking to my husband and not to me first and her answer was that I am rude with her.
Because I don’t know how to talk to her, I never told her anything bad, I never swore at her,
I have two children (b 6&g3) and I am upset seeing sometimes that he takes her side, whether with the children meals that she is not respecting and playing times etc.
The only times when I told her something was when she let my son watching horror Chanel while she was sleeping in her room, yes horror films and the other day I caught my daughter playing with cigaret lighter, and she was denying.
I have numerous arguments with my husband because of this, and I do not feel is right what she is doing. I used to work as an aupair and as a nanny long time ago, but I always discussed things with the mother not father.
He is more flexible with her, and sometimes I feel he takes her side. She is been with us only for two months, but when I ask her things about children she says everything was okay, and tell him what they did not to me, but when is about reading for children she refuses to read for my son saying some words are difficult for her. But she reads her own book in English, she rarely plays with toys with my daughter when my son is at school.
Please can anyone give me some advise, as I am really upset and really do not know how to deal with it.
Sorry for the spelling mistakes and for the long story, but I am very upset. Thank you so much for reading the long post.