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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Would 2 days p/w with a childminder work?

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gillhowe · 27/07/2007 20:22

I'm hoping to find a childminder for DS when he's a year old for two days a week (starting with 2 mornings and then moving to 2 days) and would like to ask whether in peoples experience that he would bond ok with the childminder? My mum seems to think that he wont be able to form a proper attachment and I was just wondering what people's experiences are?

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Katymac · 27/07/2007 20:29

Absolutly fine

I have had lots of children doing 2 days and they have been sucessful

However it does depend on your child I have had children for 4 or 5 days & it hasn't worked (on often - but it does happen)

I'd advise extensive settling in (IMO)

MaureenMLove · 27/07/2007 20:31

I'm a childminder and I have one mindee who comes Monday and Tuesday only and another that comes Monday & Friday only. It works perfectly fine! In fact, one of the mums told me that mindee gets quite upset if its not a childminder day!

MaureenMLove · 27/07/2007 20:34

Agree with Katy, the settling in will take longer, but he'll get there. Any childminder worth her salt will see to that!

mumlove · 27/07/2007 20:45

I have been caring for 1 child comming only 1 day a week, he didn't settle at the work place nursery but changed into my care and has now been with me for 2yrs.

funnypeevesculiar · 27/07/2007 20:51

ds & dd go to a childminder 2 days/week - in fact, ds has been doing 2 half days as he hs morniing sessions at nursery.

It did takes AGES for dd to settle (about 3/4 months - she was 5 months at the time). DS (2 at the time_ settled very quickly indeed - but I think that's got more to do with her than anything! One thing we did that helped her is spend one hour a day with the childminder (Obviously, if your cm agrees!) and that really helped. They are both now very happy there

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gillhowe · 27/07/2007 20:52

Thanks all, that's very reassuring! (although I don't want him to get upset if he has to stay at home with me )

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looneytune · 27/07/2007 21:40

Just to add my bit I look after a 5 month old on a Thurs/Fri (started at 8 weeks) and she's been fine, and 2 sisters (2 yr and 7 months, started 6 months and 7 weeks) and both these have also been fine - these are Mon-Wed.

I think you will be fine but to reassure you, just ask her if she's able to do whatever settling in that would make you feel most comfortable

maggi · 31/07/2007 17:37

recent research states that childminders are a more affectionate form of childcare than other types. Other research say that for the first 2 years there seems to be a cut off point of 20 hours a week which actually begins to harm the child making it more aggressive etc.

It will all depend on your child and the personality of the childminder. I know of foster carers who are jealous of the amount of affection my mindees show me and they (foster carers) are supposed to be replacing the parent, I'm supposed to be working with the parent.

PinkChick · 01/08/2007 15:38

i have two children (mindees)(now 19 months and 15 months) of whom i only have each for one day per week and they are fab...lovely children and im the ONLY person they dont cry when coming too!

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