Is this too much work for an Aupair?

[Leileilei04]

I want to get an Aupair, responsibilities will be three days a week to take DD who is 6 get up for school and in Breakfast club for 7.45 Am, pick daughter up from school at 6pm make her tea, give her a bath, maybe help with some light reading and in bed for 8pm. I get home at 10.30 pm, I'm not expecting any help on my days off or weekends apart from Sunday evenings when DP has to go back to London would this be doable?

That's a long day and 3 evenings completely sole care without DD seeing a parent at all? Or will you/DH be around in the mornings?

That’s fine, if it’s only three days. You can ask for school collection a bit earlier too, or drop off a bit later. 30 hours inc babysitting is reasonable.
7.45-6 is a long school day!

I will see DD before I leave work, the way I'm doing it now is 7.45 and I pick her up at 6 all 5 days a week I want to compress my hours so I get to spend 4 days with her get to pick her up at 3.15,i don't want the Aupair to take on too much as I do trust the school with her care, I speak to the school club leaders outside of school.

Are you expecting her to do laundry or cleaning? (I imagine you’re expecting her to feed DD, which is logical.) Will you also be feeding au pair?

It sounds perfectly reasonable. Au pairs should expect about 30 house inclusive of time they spend getting to school etc. At a maximum she’ll be doing 6 hours a day which is well below what au pairs should typically expect.

That's a long school day bloody hell

I think it is fine for an AP as long as you are clear which hours you need from them. Can you DP do any of the bedtimes when you are working late nights?

Question is, will this work better for DD than you picking her up and doing bedtimes?

I know it's a long school day and I feel guilty as it is but I need to work so I think this way will benefit DD as I can pick her up at 3.15 on a few days instead of 6 pm the question is do I trust a young person who I don't know really more than the school which she has been attending for 3 years with no issue and makes her happy.
DP works away Monday to Friday so no he cannot assist

So the au pair will be working only three days per week (still 30 hours which is the norm albeit compressed hours like you)?

Sounds like a great deal!

That sounds fine, I presume the au pair will have most of the school day to herself? However, what about when the school isn't open? Will she be expected to work all day?

Could the Au Pair not pick up DD earlier so she can come home earlier?

Does your daughter do any out of school activities? I'd have thought they would be days your au pair works so she isn't in out of school club. Then the days you pick up could be time for the 2 of you.

Why not drop breakfast club and after school club on the three days you want au pair to do school run? Au pair and DD have breakfast together, then once school run is done au pair has free time until 3.15 then au pair brings her home and they have dinner together.

I think the au pair will find it easier to bond with your daughter if they spend a bit more time together and she also might be easier if she's less tired.

Why not drop breakfast club and after school club on the three days you want au pair to do school run? Au pair and DD have breakfast together, then once school run is done au pair has free time until 3.15 then au pair brings her home and they have dinner together

I agree, it'll be hard on both of them if your dd is tired.

So the school day isn’t going to change for your DD on the three AP days? She’s doing BC and ASC for those hours for 5 days per week at present?

What if the AP leaves? Could you get her back in 5 days per week easily? Can you swap your hours back?

Blimey they are long school days!! Surely it makes more sense for your child to be picked up by the Au pair on those 3 days, they can then bond and more importantly your child gets some much needed down time!!

FGS, the OP knows it is a long school day, she has said she feels guilty. She asked on here about Au-pair duties, give her a break!

Sounds fine.

As long as the hours are clear, it looks ok to me. If they seem a bit long, you can always up the wages to compensate. Then the AP knows what they're applying for.

Many au pairs work longer and for more kids, it would be quite reasonable to drop breakfast club or one of the au pair days have her collect at 3.15 so they can do things together.

What about dropping either the breakfast clubs or even dropping the after school club an extra day? So just two long days in school, one ‘special’ afternoon with the AP (a good way for them to bond) and two afternoons with you.

I was an AP and I’d have been happy to do as you’re suggesting but I’d also have been happy to do longer hours, as long as I wasn’t asked to do housework on top!

Sorry, started then got distracted and cross posted with stucknoue.

I’d drop breakfast club completely, and only have her in after school twice a week.