Creepy host father

[iamnotheusurper]

Hi everyone,
I am just unsure if I am overreacting or not? I have an odd feeling about the host father, his presence just makes me feel really uncomfortable every time. Sometimes he looks at me weird, or says something strange or respond in an odd way and this has been going on for 3 months, nothing big happening, just these little things that have set some kind of an alarm inside that I do not feel comfortable and safe here at all. I also really don't like the way he talks to his 6 yr old daughter, it sounds like emotional manipulation to me ( and when he argues with his wife too - which is too often for a healthy family and this doesn't look like a healthy family to me), he also makes her upset a lot of the time and then blames her for overreacting, when the child cries he just laughs and makes fun of it or mocks her even more and the child ends up screaming even louder - no one does anything about it. He also smiles at me weird sometimes, I can feel that he's sometimes glancing at me when I'm in the room. Is something wrong? I'm just having a hard time putting my finger on to what's exactly happening...
I've had a previous terrible experience where I worked for a single mother and her ex would send me messages saying how he secretly enjoys spending the little moments with me , if he can see me and he also touched me like on my lower back, arms, pointedly stare at my lips, but I didn't know how to deal with it last time so I left asap, I was also really scared I guess and beat myself up for months after for not sticking up for myself right there on the spot.

Hey this doesn't sound very good. Always trust your gut! If you want to message me privately I'll be on hand as someone to talk too if you need.

Go! I had a creepy boss when I was an au pair a long time ago now, and although nothing horrible happened, it made for a really unpleasant time and it took longer than I'd expected to get over.

You are young, this should be a good and safe time for you, there are lots of other families out there who will give you a much better experience in return for your work.

Do you have a good reference from your previous employer? I'd start looking now, quietly. If people ask at interview why you are leaving, I'd think you can be open to a degree that unfortunately there were very difficult family dynamics and it became uncomfortable for you to remain with the host father (though I wouldn't mention the previous employers ex at the same time - although it is ridiculous and unfair, people could start seeing a pattern and be concerned). I employ live in nannies and would definitely not be put off someone applying in these circumstances.

Best of luck with your next steps.

Thank you, I guess I just needed someone else to tell me that that is not ok even if I knew it..
I am leaving in a few days and this whole experience has really put me off at the moment.

Hope you got out of there @iamnotheusurper as none of that sounds healthy at all.