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Mumof2childrenx · 23/03/2019 22:13

Long story but here we go .
So I recently finished university and completed my degree during the last term my funding was completely taken away from me leaving me in serious financially difficulties .At this point I called SF and ask why I never recieved the childcare grant amount expected ,they advise me that I was expected to recieve a payment but due to handing in my form late it had been stop .Anyways I continued with childcare arrangment as normal but told the childminder what had happened. Few weeks later I recieved letter which stated the amount where correct and unfortunately I will not recieve any funds. So , I explain this to my childminder and told her that I will have to work around the free funded hours ,although I was still expected to go to my classes .
I than was going to go back to university,but my first payment didn't seem right and would not of covered my childcare cost, so decided to defer my place so I didnt get into further debt but at the time told the childminder I will pay any debts owe as soon as a. My student money came through or b. If I can find out why it was stopped and I was refunded .if all fails as soon as I find a job I will start making regularly repayments .
So, since leaving my course I been looking for various job many of which I was not sucessful for a number of reasons however , I was behind on various debts such as rent etc and been on benefits atm so explained to the childminder again look I am in no position to make regular payments but I acknowledge I owe you money .Eventhough I was struggling I did pay her £350 ,which she never took of my outstanding balance. I asked her to send me the new invoice with what I paid deducted so I could show this evidence to step change . They advise me any payments should be made on priority debts and this wasn't classed as one but was happy to include them on a list of debt I would make regular payments to via through them.
Anyways, I recently just fount a job so I than contacted my same childminder and explained could I have a rough idea of cost of care etc etc and once in place I will start paying you plus any arrears owed ontop which I think is reasonable .
Her response is like she expect me to pay what I owe upfront first before I can get care . At no point did she ever mention this and since I have got a job it like she put a barrier in to make it impossible for me to earn money to than repay her what I owe and continue care with her ..
I am now left stuck without any care ,in a position where I finally getting on my feet again .To be told actually pay up what you owe first, otherwise you have no care and than therefore I will be unable to earn a living.

Is there any help out there to clear of the debt owed ,so I could get care ? Or shall I just find another childminder ? And pay off what I can each month.. Don't know what to do I feel like I tried to be honest, I could of changed my number been dishonest not paid a penny back not give no explanation like many other do . And it seems like it been thrown back in my face,I done everything to avoid taking risk deferred my place at university due to it . Whilst ,most students would of just continue running up debt without a care like many of my friends have .

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 27/03/2019 07:32

OP you can't be serious, of course YABU.

BritInUS1 · 27/03/2019 07:37

Yes YABU why would she do any more work until she has been paid for the last lot . Even then she won’t work for you if she has any sense

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/03/2019 05:48

Of course cm isn’t going to look after your child till she has been paid what you owe her

She will have her own bills rent /mortgage etc

How much do you owe her

Amazed she hasn’t taken you to court for payment

AnemoneAnenome · 31/03/2019 12:48

"But before this she was quite happy to wait"

This is normal I'm afraid. People will be patient for a time but if payment is not forthcoming there comes a point where they draw the line. This is all the CM's done. She is not throwing anything back in your face. I appreciate you're in a difficult position, but your CM has been very patient and if anything it's you throwing that back in her face. It's unusual to get any childcare without payment upfront. To expect more when you already are in debt is unreasonable, I'm afraid.

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