Need help

[bluees]

Hi i am an early years practitioner. Used to do two jobs last year 1. Early years 2. Midday assistant. Since September 2018 iam on maternity leave which will finish in September 2019. Now i am struggling what to do.
Unable to decide. Have few options

1. Start same jobs and leave baby at childcare ( my hubsy does volunteer work so is unable to look after him)

1. Get a new job for 27 hours (as two jobs total of this many hours)

In both situations i have to leave baby in childcare. So do I have any entitlement for childcare. I know if both parents work then can get something but in my situation not too sure. But i am thinking if i put baby in childcare whatever i ll earn will go to childcare. Not too sure what to do.

Hopefully i managed to explain my situation as m panicking and getting frustrated. Thanks

The obvious answer is your husband either does childcare or gets a paid job.

Become a nanny? Many nannies take their children with them, and with your early years training you’d be very well qualified. You’d need to have up to date 1st aid, DBS and a clean driving licence (if you are driving their car).

Sorry, what’s a “hubsy”?

That was rude, I apologize. Taking out my frustration in the wrong place as usual...

I agree that being a nanny sounds ideal for you.

Husband to care for his baby whilst his wife is at work. There you go.

Thanks all. Will look into it

What is the policy on your child being at the setting you work ?
Some settings give a generous discount - in which case it would still be worth you working, I'd have thought ? (possibly not the mid-day role ?)

It would seem though, that now you are parents, your dh probably is no longer able to afford the luxury of volunteering, and will need to either apply for paid roles, or to become a SAHP.

@BackforGood my work place do accommodate children from 18 months but as it is pvt nursery they charge hell amount of money even from employees. Atm £14 / hr

bluees Wed 20-Mar-19 06:50:10

"@BackforGood my work place do accommodate children from 18 months but as it is pvt nursery they charge hell amount of money even from employees. Atm £14 / hr"

Wow That's a lot you could get 3 child-minders for that with just as good qualifications.
Can your husband not give up voluntary work and care for his child for a few years?

Wow. That is a HUGE amount of money - and I go in to a lot of private nurseries !

Have you done the sums with paying for childcare? Does your husband do paid work at all? To be honest voluntary work is a luxury now you have a dependant. He could at least cut down this reducing the amount of paid childcare needed.

Why is the onus on you to sort this out too?

He should step up in my opinion.

Thanks all for all the support n replies. But reason for hubsy for not doing work is he has work restrictions by HO. he used to work but then he had to apply visa extension which unfortunately got refused. Made another application but till it decided , he cannot work.
Husband was ok initially work out with me. But now HO took v long (nearly 1 year still no response)
Hubby is so frustrated atm. He wants to work but cannt work. So he finds himself better doing volunteer. It might not be easily understood what he is going through but no judgements please. Thanks

Can he not volunteer around your schedule so he can watch his baby when you're at work? It seems odd to have a baby in childcare when one parent isn't working and they can't afford it.

I agree with other posters. You cannot, at present, afford the luxury of paying for childcare whilst one of you isn't able to work in paid employment. He will need to look after your little one, until he can bring enough income into the family to make it worthwhile paying for childcare.
There are still plenty of volunteering opportunities in evenings and weekends.

Be careful around the visa situation- if he is here as your spouse then if you don’t work and arm decent money you may not be eligible to have him here.

But either way frankly if you are the only one able to bring in money then facilitating that has to be top household priority. You should investigate if you can get benefits that may pay for some childcare but realistically volunteering needs to be fitted around the work rather than volunteering being some form of non negotiable.

I have some sympathy for your dh, I currently can't work in the country I'm living in and while I wait for paperwork to be sorted I do some volunteer work because being a full time SAHP isn't great for my sanity or my CV.
But and it is a big but I do this while dc are at school apart from one evening a week. Your dh is truly not looking after his family if he doesn't step up and take over the childcare at present.
You need to earn as much as you can and he needs to support his dc. He needs to find volunteer work that he can do while he doesn't need to be looking after his dc.

Surely he must realise he has to do right by his family and look after his child?

I really to check my posts more carefully, I have one evening a month I ask DH to cover somehow, not week.

"my hubsy does volunteer work so is unable to look after him"

Don't be ridiculous. Your husband needs to look after his child while your are doing paid work to support the family.

I'm guessing he has NRTPF (no recourse to public funds) which means that he can't claim benefits.

So when you claim child benefit make sure it's in your name. And if eligible for Universal Credit you must claim as a single person not as a couple, be up front about his immigration status.

Thanks all. I really appreciated all the genuine advice. I spoke to hubby. He agreed to do volunteer in evening opportunity. Thanks.