Problems with host family?

[one23four56]

I’ve been with my host family for over two months but I want to quit.

Are you an aupair? Have you come through an agency?

Sorry! I accidentally hit “post”.
I just wanted to ask if there’s any au pairs that could share their uncomfortable experiences with their host family?
Im having some difficulties with one of the host parents attitudes towards me, I don’t even know where to begin but I don’t feel respected by them. Anybody else had similar stuff?

I’m thinking of quitting but I don’t know if it’s that big of an issue to quit over? 🙄

If you're unhappy, that's enough of an indicator that you should quit. You don't need to compare...what are they doing?

It’s the host father, it’s like he’s playing with my emotions, one minute he’s all polite and “put together” and the next he will just ignore me what I say or act like I’m not worthy, or even stupid. It’s almost like he will behave in a way to make the other person appear or feel stupid.

You don't have to put up with that. Did you get the job via an agency or on your own? Are you in a country that's foreign to you?

I want to quit but to be honest I am a bit scared for my safety when I tell them. I don’t know these people and how they will react. It hasn’t been a good experience for me so far with them.

I’m in UK, found the family on my own..

I'm not an au pair, but I don't think anybody should stay anywhere they are being treated like that. Somebody trying to mess with you mentally can be serious and can end up with you second guessing yourself all the time and wondering if it's normal or you're overreacting, can also affect your self esteem and make you more likely to just accept what is happening.

Jesus, I hope you aren't working for who I think you could be. Do the wife and the husband not get on? Does she not have much to do with you?

Pack your stuff and go after leaving a note. Do you have somewhere to go?

@pinkgloves I know who you are talking about but that would be a million to one coincidence. There are lots of weird people out there!

Are you just staying there to learn the language then op?

If you fear for your safety you need to leave without notice any public toilet will give details of domestic abuse lines that could give you information on womans refuge and support group. You may be an employee but its still abuse.