30 hours childcare

[myexisanasshole]

So, my ex has got it in his head that we are now sharing the children 50/50 even though I have not agreed to any such arrangement or received any court summons/parenting order/solicitor letter. Safe to say this is not going to be happening and I am keeping the children until the issue is sorted. However I have found out today that he has applied for the free 30 hours of childcare with my childminder and wants my son to go even when he is supposed to be with me (for his proposed 50/50 split). What I can't find out is if this is allowed? I have read that the person applying has to have the children living with them the majority of the time but with 50/50 how do they decide that? Would he be eligible? Obviously I will be fighting his proposal as it's not sustainable for the children as he works full time, can't take our eldest to swimming/dance/choir, eldest is terrified of going to his plus a while host of other issues. So if anyone knows about the 30 hours rules please post below! 😁

And they have lived with me for 3 years, social services have said I'm resident parent, as have my solicitors. All their mail comes here, I am the main parent on school forms, doctors, dentist so I can prove it quite easily.

If got to admit, I don’t particularly get your problem with your child receiving their funding like most children in the country. It’s helping you out, reducing your childcare fees, no?

Because i don't want my so in full time childcare while I'm sat at home perfectly capable of looking after him myself! He is fine to do the 15 hours bit my ex has TOLD me that he wants 50/50 after 3 years of not giving a shit! I don't think it's right to put a 3yo in 40+ hours of childcare? That's not him parenting? He then puts him to bed at 6? How is that right? And why should he do the 30 hours the weeks I have him when I don't work? If we both worked then fine but thats not the situation. This is all about money to him, I don't believe it what's best for my children, my daughter does not want to go, he doesn't play with them, he shouts at my daughter and locks her in her room, the house is unsafe and so on. How is that what's best for my children? Yet again I'm left wondering why I bother posting as there is always someone out there dying to make a dig!

What on Earth makes you think people are being "rude", "getting at" you, or "have issues". Aside from the fact that people are allowed an opinion on a public message board, we’re taking the time to share views in an effort to help.

It’s unfortunate that you choose to take offence and give insult to anyone who appears to disagree with you in the slightest.

You don’t want to hear this, but the fact is Georgie is absolutely right. Your childminder has been messed about, and you need to face up to things in a much more adult manner.

Like many parents in your position, you’re in danger of digging yourself into a hole, and the last thing you need is to be egged on by agreeable sycophants encouraging you to keep on digging.

Because my question was about 30hrs childcare, nothing else?! Telling me to grow up- unnecessary, calling me a liar and asking for my source of information about the 30hrs entitlement- bitchy! This wasn't about opinions, I wanted facts but as usual people have run away with it and decided to make judgements on me?! Not sure why, I'm trying to do what best for my children and that's all.

You cannot apply for 30 hours unless you are both working. So if you are not working your child is not entitled to the 30 hours.

Here is the section of the gov.uk website stating child must live with you.

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The 30 hours isn’t really 30 hours a week it’s 1140 a year so really about 22 a week if you use it all year around. Could you use 22 hours a week? A single parents can apply if they are working. So the Dad can apply - assuming he’s working but Mum couldn’t apply if she’s not. But the main thing is still the kids living with the parent who applies so no Dad couldn’t apply

Thankyou winks, that's what I was trying to say!

Unless both parents are working or he was the only parent with parental responsibility you are not entitled to 30, just the standard 15. Once your youngest is of that age it is normal to take up the offer of 15 hours.

Well, now it's irrelevant as he got a court order and took my babies away. I don't understand how he did it without going to court or mediation first. I'm utterly broken, an abusive man gets to have my children, the children he never wanted. How is this fair? He made up a complete load of lies and twisted the truth to suit him. I don't like how I am going to carry on 😢

I'm so sorry OP. Did he get 50/50 or full custody? How did it happen so quickly? Can you get to a solicitor ASAP?

I don't understand what's happened, he got a c100 and a letter from the court to say he can take them and I can't see them. I don't get how he's done it, everything I've read says you have to do mediation first and then actually go to a hearing not just take them from their mother. He's done it to force me into 50/50, my poor babies won't understand and I promised my daughter he wouldn't take them. I'm seeing my solicitor Monday but I don't think much can be done. My heart is breaking.

How can a judge grant an emergency order without checking what he has said is true? He has completely lied about most of it or it is massively exaggerated, I just don't understand, he said the children were at risk of harm!! I'm so upset, I don't want to go to court and have my life dragged up and poked into. This just isn't fair 😢

That's is completely unfair and disgusting behaviour. I don't know anything about these situations but get yourself a solicitor ASAP and I'm sure it will be reversed if there is no proof.