shouting at child

[butterfly911]

i hve a very determined strong headed boy who im 'finding very hard to deal with'. i know i shouldnt but i tend to shout alot & over him just 2 be heard i know its wrong but sometimes

i feel like having a tantrum

myself i feel very guilty about shouting hes my 1st & planning to hve another but would like to deal with this before i get pregnant iworry that im harming him by shouting alot
i seem to be doing all the things i sd id never do

have you trei whispering to him - it sounds sily but i used to fine when wroking in a romm of 30 2.5yrs-5yrs that if i shouted it made them louder, if i talked very quietly they had to strain to listen and so became quieter!

Its hard not to shout sometimes, so dont beat yourself up about it!

I had a teacher at senior (girls only) school, who if the class got out of hand would whisper. It was amazingly effective, everyone would stop what they where doing to listen, and it made a big impression on me. Even now I tend to whisper instead of shout and can personally vouch for it's effectiveness.

How old is he? Is there anything inparcticular he is testing you with?

great minds fiflou!

no i hvnt tried whispering will it work cause my thorat is very sore 4m all d shouting but im willing 2 gve it a try if nothing else it ll gve my voice a break
& hopefully reduce chest pain that i hve almost everyday 4m stres

I'm sorry to hear you are having such a stressful time butterfly, I fing getting out of the house helps, especially if it wears them out!

Not engaging in a row helps too, at a young age you shouldn't have to give a small child a lengthy explanation. I look after a very strong willful character, and find I have to always keep to the same rules for him, and be really firm but fair. It is tiring but he is starting to realise that I am the one in charge.

Pick your battles too to give you less stress, for example give a choice of outfits, or breakfast, but make sure you find all the choices offered acceptable so he does feel he has some independance.

hth