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Child has a hard time to settle

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Lovelyivy · 26/01/2019 12:22

I started working as a childminer. I have my own child and took in 1 more. Not planning on adding more kids. My child is 2years and the other baby boy is 13months. He stayed at our house for 4 half days-settle days and he cried on and off the entire 4hours each time (sometimes smiled for 10-15mins and played) but the rest he was crying minute on, minute off. I’m so worried that child won’t settle. Sad any experience from mums/childminders ? How long it usually takes for child to settle? Are there babies that don’t settle at all?

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Highonthehill · 26/01/2019 12:26

When my dd started at nursery at 13 months she was like this on off crying all day for several weeks even after starting. After about 1 month of starting she stopped crying in the day. Took about 3 months before she stopped crying at drop off and pick up. Now she walks In on her own and is fine.
She was only going 1 day a week though which is why I think it took longer

itsaboojum · 26/01/2019 12:30

How long it usually takes for child to settle?

How long is a piece of string? There are wide variations in settling time because each child is different (and none of them have done the training courses which spout endless 'how to' rubbish about settling in.) I find the biggest factor tends to be what has the family done about preparing the child before they even came.

Are there babies that don’t settle at all?
Yes. It's rare, and a lot of people will deny it, but they are some.

Lovelyivy · 26/01/2019 16:35

Thank you for answers. The family is so lovely I don’t want to disappoint them - hope the boy will settle with time

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Maryann1975 · 28/01/2019 22:24

I looked after a five month old baby who didn’t settle. She screamed for pretty much the whole time she was with me (about 6 weeks) and I gave notice in the end. I couldn’t deal with it and nor could the other children. But I did get fed up of reading that young babies didn’t care who they are left with and dpthat they don’t get separation anxiety until they are 9 months. (These things are different for all children and babies). This baby clearly missed her mum and I couldn’t imagine her ever settling with me (hence the notice).
How many hours/days have you had the child? Can you and your daughter cope with trying to see it through to try to get them to settle?

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