Weaning dd to nursery

[Issy777]

Hello all

Please could I have some advice on how to wean Dd from childminder to nursery?
Originally, I chose nursery for dd , she did the settling in sessions etc even paid for extra but decided she wasn't ready- she was just inconsolable, and had started waking in the night when before she never did. I have quite a demanding job, luckily I only do four days and would only need nursery for two days a week as the other time she's with grandparents

The nursery kindly said I could use the £100 non refundable deposit for inducting her again when I feel she was ready, I said maybe after her first birthday - she was just 9 months when I originally tried , she's now nearly 11 months and I'm thinking after Christmas to get her back into nursery (by then she will be 13 months)
The nursery is close to my work so that's the main reason, it's also outstanding and with the childminder atm it's hard to get to and from.

How can I go about transitioning her from now til she's 13 months ? Is there anything I can do? The childminder takes her to a playgroup but I don't want her to just be thrown in at the deep end

Thanks

Although many childcare providers will suggest otherwise, I don’t believe there’s some universal scientific formula or magic wand that ensures every child the best chance of settling.

Each child is different, and there’s seldom any way of knowing why they may or may not settle in at any particular age or type of childcare setting.

The main thing is to get the child used to being without you, and try to condition them to similar routines to those of the childcare setting. It’s surprising how many mums who’ve hardly so much as put their DC down in twelve months are then shocked when they fail to adapt to their absence for 8-10 hours a day. Or have sleep routines during maternity leave which mean the poor child arrives at childcare too tired to be happy and too upset to sleep.

It would be useful to know a few specifics of your situation.

When did you put DD with the childminder (CM)?

Has she settled with the CM? And, if not, what possible causes have been suggested?

Is your CM aware of your intention to revert to nursery? If not, will you be notifying the CM soon (in order for them to support the transition) or will you just be informing the CM at the point at which you give notice to terminate the arrangement?

Am I right that you put her with cm for about 6 weeks if you started nursery at 9months tried settling and now she is 11 months? If so OMG how cruel she's just settled and your going to uproot her again just because the journey will be easier

I feel that it may be even trickier the second time around - you've put her in nursery to which she didn't take to, you then pulled her out and placed her with a childminders and now you're going to move her again. It must all be rather unsettling for her. Is there any way you can make it work with the child minder?

I would leave it a bit longer if she's settled well with the childminder, if she's only there two days a week it's not as if you're doing the awkward journey every day.

If she’s settled with the childminder I’d probably leave her there to be honest, at least for a while longer. Sounds like she’s only been with the childminder for about 6 weeks so will be a lot of upheaval in a short space of time.

I had pretty much an identical situation to you. Did settling in and it simply didn't work so i put her with a childminder. She is now 2.3 and i'm just about to transition her to nursery as I think it's better for her development at this age. CM is lovely and they have a great bond but relies on tv a bit too much for my liking. I will let you know how she gets on with the transition next week once she starts

@everycloudetc

Wow thanks for your post, I think you got the gist more than other commenters on here! I'm also a bit dubious about childminder as well!!! Dd seems to like her and settled in thank god but she doesn't really do much in terms of going out etc, one time I asked if she would mind taking her to a famous playgroup in that area but said she was too tired n she didn't wanna go out, she's actually a friend of my sisters so I think she sometimes uses that to her advantage (like a bit too informal)
I don't mind cos apart from that she's lovely and sweet and very motherly but I do want my dd to be around children more and get used to a nursery setting

Please let me know how yours gets on that would be much appreciated :) maybe it's a bit too early for my dd but I do still want to try wean her