How long do you spend with your dc??

[IsabellaMoltisantixx]

I know this sounds terrible but I'm having extreme guilt from being a working mum to 9 month old dd.

Before the summer I went back to work when dd was 7 months old, I'm a teacher so basically work school hours 8.20-4pm. I was lucky as I went off mat leave to three days a week n it seemed brilliant as I got that break and quality two days with dd in the week,
However, after the summer holidays I was required to work 4 days. Just that one extra day has made such a huge difference. I feel like I'm just hardly seeing her! On my day off, I now try get all the housework done phone calls etc appointments
I have an overbearing guilt all the time and I've started to ring in late to work due to it. I think the travelling doesn't help as by the time I pick her up from childcare we end up home about 5pm!! Then she goes to bed about 7.30pm
I'm just really struggling and would just like to hear from any other working mums who feel the same with a similar ages dc. Any advice
Thanks all

Does her other parent live with you? Do they feel guilty?
Just don't . Tell yourself you doing great.
Your dd is fine.you see her every day every evening . 5 pm is early enough. You are there all weekend. You are great. You have a great job long term sharing same holidays when she at school...very lucky!
No guilt allowed.
Can you pay a cleaner instead of doing it all yourself on day off?

Try to look at the positives over others - many children are in childcare 7 to 6pm 5 days a week with parents fitting in everything into weekends. You have about 6 weeks to the next holiday not 13 and 13 weeks a year not 4 or 5. Your always going to miss lo and guilt is part of parenthood but some things cant be changed at the end of the day your working to put food on the table etc.
try to make the most of things like internet shops batch cooking and let go of some chores. enjoy what you have and make memories then think wow in 4 years time I'm so lucky I can spend every holiday with you rather than in work.

I work 4 days a week. I leave the house at 7.30am (my husband drops them off) and pick my kids up from nursery/childminder at about 5.30-5.45. They go to bed at around 8pm. It's fine! Don't feel guilty at all.

On my day off my son is in school 9-3.15 anyway. The little one spends the day with me which is lovely time together, but she'll start school next year.

If it's not working for you then why not talk to work and tell them and if they're not willing to reduce to 3 days, look for a new post. Teachers are in demand - well they are in our area anyway.

We make the most of it. My partner works at home most frequently so I can work outside the flat. The little ones spend time at my workplace currently. Lessons are Monday through till Thursday afternoon (we homeschool the youngest two children). Fridays we take a break and go to do something as a family. I’m a office worker for a airline company based in this country selling tickets and recording all information on passengers.