Mother in law as child care?!

[Lmummy5]

So, I'll start from the beginning, me and my husband have had our first baby and she is also his mums first grandchild, my family are not in the picture.
At first his mum as a great help but now my baby girl is 2 months and she is getting annoying, she takes her off of me without asking, wakes her up when she's napping, touches her feet even when told not to as it makes her cry and calls her 'her baby or her little girl' which drives me insane!
She has been asking my husband when I'm going back to work already! It's only been 2 months!! The reason being is because she wants to have her when I'm working... I've read a few posts about how this can be a bad idea, especially when the MIL (mother-in-law) is over bearing and already try's to play mum (she's already said she's too young to be a grandma so wants to be called mum or meme by my baby - not going to happen. I think at this stage I much rather pay for child care but want to know if anyone else has any experience in this?? Thanks!x

Don't do it. Just don't. You are already unhappy with her. It will only get worse. There are threads on here every day about this.

If you don't think she'll respect your boundaries, don't do it. A good compromise could be that she has dd one day a week or that DD goes to a nursery and MIL picks her up and has her for an hour or two before you get home etc.

Also, DH needs to step in and tell his mother that waking the baby, calling herself Mum etc simply isn't okay.

Please don’t do this, you will regret it. Find someone else to look after her. Nursery, Childminder or Nanny.

Thanks ladies,
I didn't know if I was being too petty or dramatic - I haven't agreed to let her be our childcare, she's basically just told my husband she is

Compromise and say perhaps A day a week but tell her if it's a yes you'll absolutely need her to be available otherwise you'll just book all the days you need at nursery

You also need to start setting boundaries

Mum - only 1 mum thank you, chose a grandma type name or she can use your first name

Waking up - unacceptable as this causes upset for the baby tell her no

Anything reasonable that she's interfering with or stepping boundaries then learn to say no

I think it's a bit of jealousy as well, she already sees her so much and took over when she was born because I was unwell after labour. I don't want her to overthrow my bond with her because she already tries to take over

I would say I appreciate the offer but I'm going to use childcare (childminder or nursery both registered and inspected by Ofsted and working to the EYFS so not sure why 2 posters say nursery) which will leave you free to be the grandparent and enjoy your time with LO now I'm mummy so what shall we call you Nan, Sue, I don't want to confuse things especially when she gets older and thinks mum isn't a special name for me.

I feel like you have written out my life OP.

You aren't petty or dramatic

We've decided on one day with her when I go back to work, as it will be a great help financially. Other days we're using a nursery and other family members. I'm hoping my OH will drop off & pick up though! I find she doesn't listen to me either but will listen to my OH occasionally.

Thank you! I think I'm going to do the same