CM CLUB - How do you deal with biting? And hair pulling?

[LoveMyGirls]

Please all idea's welcome neither of my children have done this, mnow new mindee did it to my dd2 yesterday and today another mindee did both to dd2 again

What do i do? How do i get them to stop?

I'm giving notice to the mindee who did it first as it's not on and there are other issues and to have 2 biting and hair pulling ganging up on dd2 is not on.

How old are bitees?

1st one is 16mths
2nd one turned 2 last week
My dd is 20mths

Please any ideas at all?

OSrry, got to dash - emergency! I'll be back to continue this later!!! (Not bad emergency btw!!!!)

OK, crisis over, well sort of! Did you give the ist one notice just because of biting or is there other problems? I think you should ask 2nd ones parents if they have expirenced the biting thing before to start with. Usually, it only happens a few times and then they stop as quickly as they start, as long as you make it clear to them that its not acceptable. Don't know what else to suggest really! My dd bit about half a dozen times when she was around 2 and one of my mindees hit. But she was the same, it only lasted a couple of weeks at the most. Not much good today am I? Sorry.

I haven't given notice yet but am planning to, new mindee has only been with me 3 days and there are other issues, can't say anymore on here though i'm afraid.

2nd mindee - i have now spoken to his mum and he's never done this before, i think his behaviour has gone downhill mainly due to the number of children tbh, hes only been with me a few weeks and isnt used to this many children as he's an only child.

I don't know how to give notice, I've never given notice in the first week before

Focus the attention on the one that has been bitten and ask for an apology/hug/kiss from the biter to the bitee. Normally works.

Not sure about hair pulling but i guess its the same priase the good and try ti ignore the bad.

Jelly thats what I have been doing, new mindee has gone to bite so many times, though once once has she got a proper hold and even then didnt draw blood or mark luckily but did hurt obviously.

I think she is teething and does want to bite, chew etc but there are lots of things she could be biting instead of my dd

I've just written reasons down to give notice and there are 6 good reasons so I think thats the way forward and hope 2nd mindee was just a one off and he wont do it again. Fingers crossed!

I've told mum i want to end arrangement n she was ok about it i said ill have them for another week while she sorts something out.

I feel relieved (well as much relief as you can feel when you have as much on your plate as i do right now)

I can understnad the relief you are talking about. I have given notice when i have had to and the weight is almost immediate.

My last one i was so gutted to give notice to but i had too. Still miss him though absolutely lovely child.

Must be awful for you LMG and really feel for you! Glad that you said that there are other issues as well as the hair pulling/biting though!

In my setting it is my DS (15 months) that does the hair pulling (no biting to date). I just try to distract him and stop him when I see him getting ready to 'inflict'!

I do obviously tell parents about him, but don't know what else to do!

Have told him to give kisses when he has been succesful in pulling hair, which he has done and cuddled with a big 'aaahhhh'. And obviously try to let him know that it is wrong!!!!!