Work & childcare

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Hi mamas,
I have a young child and work just will not be flexible and help me out.
Both my partner and I work full time and don't have to rely on childcare the way our shifts work except for a small 20 mins change over. My partners company happily allowed him to start work an hour early and finish an hour early however I've been fighting my workplace to start just 20 mins later as his finish time is my start time!
They will not budge!
In the beginning when I came off maternity leave I had an 86 year old neighbour who would have her for the 20 mins however the poor woman is now on 24 oxygen and my child walking, it's just not possible for her which is absolutely reasonable. All other family and friends also work full time so cannot rely on any to guarantee they can have her.
I have had a disciplinary with HR about my current 20 mins lateness when I've repeatedly told them exactly why. Their only suggestion is to take a different vacancy which cut my hours by half and I we just cannot afford to drop that amount of money!
What's your views here?

It would be nice if they were flexible. Have you put in a formal request?
You can't continue to be late. What time of day is this twenty minutes?

How old is your child?

It would be nice if they were willing to shift your shift slightly and I can see why you are annoyed. Could you look into getting a childminder to do an hour?

I have put in two formal requests and both declined.
Put it this way, there is someone on the area I work for 16 hours a day, the morning person leaves as I start, believe me in the job I work the place just does not fall apart within 20 mins.
Isn't this what bank staff is for? I'm so so annoyed

Blue bell tulip I think that is what I'm going to have to do however I'm not even sure where to start with that?

What reasons did they give for rejecting?

It just cannot be done, in other words they can't be bothered to change the contracts. The lady on the morning shift had offered to take the 20 mins on for me and still no

I can see why they’ve refused it if it would mean altering other people’s contracts. One woman may have offered to it, but she could leave at any time and will have holidays and sickness herself, someone will have to cover you both then.

If husbands job is more flexible why didn’t he request 1 and a half hours earlier start to avoid any crossover at all? I know this may not be possible depending on his job.

If they’ve refused your flexible working request twice, you can’t just do it anyway and constantly be 20 minutes late!

If neither of you can change your shifts any further then one of you needs to look at changing jobs, or else you need to pay for childcare. Most childcare providers will have a minimum session that’s far more than you need though.

How close is your place of work to your husbands?

How old is your child can you pay a local teen £5 for 20 min a day?