Back story
Stepdaughter 11 lives with her mother
She spends 3 nights with us
The days and times have been now set this time 18 months around her mothers original employment - mother has had 10 jobs in 4 years so is always changing days and times.
My husband works from home as do I and has to do work out side the home on the days he doesn’t have his daughter
This mother receives all the child tax credit and child benefits
My husband pays child support and provides all his daughters clothing shoes school uniform trips hobbies etc
Mother got another new job and demanded again my husband looks after they’re daunted basically all week 8am to 7.30 pm ‘Monday to Tuesday
Same Wednesday to Thursday
8am Friday to 11 am Saturday
All this mother works is 10-2 4 of those days but she knows she doesn’t stay in jobs and is trying to cover all potential working hours as she refuses to pay childcare
We can’t afford to pay her childcare
We can’t have they’re daughter on the days already agreed we have had so many demands from this women if we didn’t do as she said she’d not let my husband see his daughter
So my husband said no more the days and times stay as they are and you also need to be providing clothing especially for your house.
So mother has taken him to court to get it set we have they’re daughter all week all she will be having her daughter is 7.30 pm Tuesday to 7.30 am Wednesday and 7.30 pm to 7.30 am Thursday
Weekends she will be at her mums from 11 am Saturday to school Monday
This is what her mother wants that we provide all her child care when she’s working and extra
As she’s only working 16 hours a week we don’t feel she is being fair
Last year we stepped in and had the child all the time as her mother had issues she seems to have had them sorted but she refuses to provided any basic needed things for her daughter and now she’s demanding we provide and pay for all childcare in holidays is very stressful
Does anyone know what courts tend to decide
The child wants the days and times to stay as they are as yhatsvall she’s used to
Her mother has now handed over chikdtax credits to the child and said to her ( she’s 111 ) you have to buy all your clothes and needs from the £80 a month I’ve given you
For 5 Years I’ve brought gone and got all my stepdaughters clothing shoes uniform etc I did what her mother refused to do,
This is causing so much stress I couldn’t even go to court today to support my husband as my IBS D has left me running to the toilet all morning.
We have no issues having her here what we don’t lie is the child sees her mother try control her dad and it’s making the child feel her mum doesn’t care about here.
The child has said why does Mum think you have to do everything for me it’s her job to do her share and it feels like she doesn’t care about me.
Husbands waiting to go into court cafcass are 45 minutes late