Is is ok to give my au pair 2 weeks notice when she's on holiday?

[Delph123]

Hi, I plan to replace my au pair as things aren't really working out, her English is very basic and she hasn't bonded with my daughter who is 3 years old, aside from also being lazy and never feeling able to complete simple tasks. She's going home for 3 weeks at Christmas and I can't face having to tell her before she leaves that she can't come back. I'm happy to pay her in lieu. It's not my preferred option but knowing her it will create a bad atmosphere which my daughter will pick up if I tell her now, they are already having a tricky time getting on with each other. I'd welcome your thoughts/advice on whether this is the right approach. Thanks v much.

FFS tell her before she goes home, so that she can take all her stuff.

Woman up and tell her now. Pay her the next month outright and tell her to leave and in the meantime find someone else. If she’s that bad why have her around?

I actually cant believe youd think it was acceptable to tell her when she has left the country that she cant come back!

Tell her now ffs.

3 wks is a really long time. Are you sure she is planning to come back? Has she nooked a return ticket? Does she have any idea you're not happy?

You should definitely tell her before she goes. Really harsh to let her leave the country thinking she's coming back!

Hi everyone, thanks for all your comments, point taken. I will tell her before she leaves that it's not working out, she's leaving next weekend.

OVienna she thinks she's coming back, she's going early as it's her boyfriend's birthday.

Hope it goes well OP.

Good luck OP - right decision

Definitely tell her asap so she can take her things and not have to pay for two trips. She maybe happy not to come back.

Au pairs aren't really recommended for under 5s. You may be better getting a different child care method like a nursery or childminder.