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Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Nanny birthday

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foodfairy · 12/04/2007 14:14

It's my nanny's birthday in a couple of weeks. I was thinking of getting her some vouchers, but have got no idea of the going rate. Any ideas? We live in London. Thanks

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nannynick · 12/04/2007 14:36

I doubt there is such a thing as a going rate for a birthday present. How much you give will depend on a lot of factors, especially including how much you can afford.

DarrellRivers · 12/04/2007 14:40

we give a present from the children around £15 a present from us £15 and then some cash as well

Eleusis · 12/04/2007 15:00

I spend about £50 on Birthday and the same for Christmas. Although this year we forgot her birthday in early December so we spent £150 on an MP3 player for Christmas that we knew she really wanted. We don't give an annual bonus.

I think you have to kind of look at the whole package. And of course as Nick says, what you can afford is also a factor.

fridayschild · 12/04/2007 15:17

We give a little something from the children, and some cash. Last year DS1 chose a ball of string for her so on behalf of DS2 I selected a couple of mugs and some biscuits from Harvey Nicks, and then we gave her about £100. I see it as part of the package, I want to keep her!

If anyone has any inspiration for the DCs' little something, I am ready to hear it, her birthday is looming. I need to get in quick before DS2 decides she can have a Percy tank engine.

Whoooosh · 12/04/2007 15:19

I've got the same problem with our relatively new nanny (since Nov).

Now-maybe this should be on the "am I being unreasonable thread" but it was my birthday on Tuesday and my nanny didn't even help dd to make me a card-I was quite shocked and more than a little disappointed tbh.

nannynick · 12/04/2007 15:53

How would your nanny know when your birthday was? I certainly don't know the dates of birth of my employers.

nannynick · 12/04/2007 15:53

Would it not be dp's responsibility to help dd make a card, buy present etc.

Eleusis · 12/04/2007 15:57

Last year, my nanny found out it was my birthday on the morning of my birthday. When I got home from work there was a pic of the kids in a picture frame nicely wrapped with card signed by nanny and kids. Is she cool, or what?

Did nanny know it was your birthday? If not, I wouldn't be bothered. If she did, that I wouldn't feel obligated to go over the top for her birthday, but I wouldn't be upset about it either.

nannynick · 12/04/2007 16:15

Yes Eleusis, your nannies the greatest. Mind you, perhaps she was just trying to butter you up before asking for a pay rise

Eleusis · 12/04/2007 16:17

Sorry, that sounded really smug didn't it.

nannyj · 12/04/2007 16:27

My bosses spend about £100 but i don't expect it and you should only spend what you can afford. I don't organise anything for my bosses birthdays i think it is absolutely the other partners job to do that. And i don't buy them presents because i couldn't afford anything they would use but i buy for their children.

Whoooosh · 12/04/2007 17:58

Nick-she lives in with us and was very well aware it was my birthday for numerous reasons.
I am not cross-just amazed really as when I was nannying I always went out of my way to make my employers' birthdays special,especailly if their children were very young and the novelty of having a card from their child was still there.
DP did do a card with dd.

Millarkie · 12/04/2007 19:06

We gave our nanny £50 and some posh chocs for her birthday (we knew she would rather have the money than a present).
And yes, she does help the children to make us cards for parent's birthdays, easter, christmas etc..but that may be because she is from a nursery background and nurseries seem obsessed with making cards (well the one our children went to was).

paros · 12/04/2007 21:13

My boss bought me a Wii for my birthday this year . (lucky me )

Genidef · 12/04/2007 21:22

£50 worth of vouchers for Christmas. Eleusis, you are way generous in my view.

dmo · 12/04/2007 21:22

i always make cards with the children for their parents/siblings/grandparents
when they start i add a note that on special occasions the children will make cards for those close to them so please write down D.O.B of those close to your child
the children love giving the cards out

maybe different for a nanny but as a childminder i rarley get gifts for birthdays etc from my mindees and dont expect any eirther

thelittleElf · 12/04/2007 21:39

It was my bosses birthday a few weeks ago. So while mumboss was out, we made a lovely big heart shaped birthday cake, put up banners (some homemade by the children) and balloons. Then the children helped me prepare a lovely lunch for when mum got home . They were so excited, and i know mum was surprised when she walked in .
The children have had a rocky time lately, so this was a big deal to them......and also to me
They had also got mummy a lovely pressie (with my help), and signed some beautiful cards.

jura · 12/04/2007 22:00

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Eleusis · 13/04/2007 08:03

Generous? Moi? No no no... I am the "mean old bat".

jura · 13/04/2007 08:46

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ScottishThistle · 16/04/2007 16:19

Depends how much you like her/ whether you give a bonus/ how much you can afford!

I've had Birthday presents varying from the value of £20-£200 & my Birthday's a week before Xmas.

I'd also like to add that a bit of thought goes a long way & I don't like to receive or give vouchers.

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