My employer told me last week that she is "very uncomfortable" that her daughter "prefers" me and not her. I have looked after her daughter for over a year now. My employer is a SAHM, and I have 11 years experience. I never usually work for a SAHM but this job fell into my lap and I am generally happy. Or at least I was til last week. Now there is a definite atmosphere (negative) and I can see now that my employer is very jealous of the relationship I have with her daughter, who is a toddler. I am finding it hard to do my job as I feel guilty all the time that the daughter does indeed want me a lot of the time, but I cannot force her to go to her mummy. My employer has started using tactics to get her daughter away from me, effectively making me the baddie. It's getting to the point I actually feel very uncomfortable. I am a loving, enthuseastic, experienced nanny, and have not had this problem arise (at least not openly and to the extent it has reached now) before. I have always shown my charges a lot of love, through cuddles, stories, songs, activities, and a routine of consistent care. Now I feel terrible, as it has obviously affected my employer. I have tried reassuring her that her daughter doesn't really prefer me. But the atmosphere is now very tense, and her attitude towards me particularly in public has gone from openly friendly and appreciative to quite hostile and she ignores me a lot of the time. I am wondering if it is time for me to move on. I want to talk to the dad about this, as maybe he can talk to the mum. I am a good nanny with great references and am now feeling lower self esteem and greater insecurity as I am with my boss all day every day and I can't seem to do anything right, her daughter obviously loves me and I try to encourage her to go to her Mummy but you can't force a toddler to do something! Someone please help, before I go mad with worry about how to deal with this
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