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CM Club - Mindee 1's mum has just said to me

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saltire · 03/04/2007 09:01

I hope you can smell my perfume on him today, as i can usually smell yours on him.

When i asked her what she meant she said "Oh i sprayed myself with perfume then gave him a big hug. It's because when he gets home all i can smell is your perfume on him and it annoys me slightly,I'd rather my son smelt of me, instead of you" .

I don't know what to say actually, or what to think.

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Eleusis · 03/04/2007 13:27

She's weird. Just plain weird.

amidaiwish · 03/04/2007 13:43

it would bother me too, my DDs coming back smelling of perfume.

MrsDoolittle · 03/04/2007 13:45

Ah well, atleast it's only one you have and not two like that.

Plainly neurotic

Soapbox · 03/04/2007 13:46

There was a thread on here recently where lots of people posted that they couldn't bear the smell of otehr people's perfume on their child. Be it mother, MIL, Aunty or friend.

I was quite surprised at the number of posters who said they didn't like it. Perhaps your mindees mum is just a bit more open about her feelings???

I wouldn't take it personally if I were you

amidaiwish · 03/04/2007 13:46

but i have just read the link and she sounds like a nutter.

suejonez · 03/04/2007 13:54

if you excuse the pun she sounds like a fruit loop

Eleusis · 03/04/2007 13:55

I've never even noticed that my kids smell like other people's perfume -- but then DH says the house would burn down before I smelled the smoke. So, perhaps it's me.

suejonez · 03/04/2007 13:56

about the fruit that is. Not sure about the perfume - I don;t like perfume and don;t wear any so it might irritate me if DS came home smelling of it but not becasue he had been cuddling with CM (love to think he gets plenty of cuddles when I'm not around). As others have said doesn;t sound like the perfume is the issue in this case though.

suejonez · 03/04/2007 13:57

actually thats not qute true - I don;t like MOST perfumes (they make me sneeze)

Eleusis · 03/04/2007 14:00

And, another thing, do people wear perfume every day to work? Seems weird if you ask me. I don't wear perfume to work, and I would think it was a bit weird if I smelled it on a colleague.... but the as I've already said I haven't exactly got a sensitive sense of smell.

pooka · 03/04/2007 14:01

I'd take it as a sign that my child was being cared for and cuddled - as a positive thing. For goodness sake - it's not just perfume, people's houses smell different and even if the person looking after my children (MIL/ DM and so on) isn't wearing perfume, they still come back smelling different. Not worth worrying about in my opinion.

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saltire · 03/04/2007 14:07

That's a point actually, I don't wear perfume during the day. I'm on my hands and knees with children playing or washing painting brushes or outside! I never thought of that, it must be my anti-perspirant she can smell, but again i don't cover myself in it, so hmm, i'm curious now. I have to say, mindee does smell very strongly of it, even the lady in the shop commented.

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PinkChick · 03/04/2007 14:10

i wear perfume everyday..nothing overbearing just nice, light smells..always have, i used to work in department store and think i had it instilled into me..

suejonez · 03/04/2007 14:11

air freshener at child level?

looneytune · 03/04/2007 14:15

I used to wear perfume (lightly) until the prem baby started and then I stopped as she's soooo tiny (well, was). I don't like strong smell of perfume anyway, more so on children HOWEVER this is not her problem anyway. And to spray perfume so they stink like that that's terrible!!

Nutter!!!

KaySamuels · 03/04/2007 14:18

Oh god how strange! Has she said this to try and rile you or is she just clueless!? I can maybe understand her feeling insecure but honestly what was she hoping to acheive by saying this? Would she like you to physically withdraw from her child? Stop wearing perfume just for her? Is this parent worth the money???

Also on the food issue my child would never eat this amount (he is 2 and a half and also loves fruit), I second someone's suggestion of making a fruit salad with it, that way he has had all of whole mix of the fruit but not such a lot of it. Definately very emotional about what he is eating - poor woman. I would reassure her oh yes he has had his apple, blueberries, strawberries, etc today as a big fruit salad - why does she not want him to eat after certain time only to feed him in the car?

MrsDoolittle · 03/04/2007 14:23

Body spray or deodorant will permeate from you during the day, if you wear them.
I guess it's just that.

Basically, it's a primal thing. You know how animals recognise each other by smell. This lady, like we all do, wants her child to smell of her. He doesn't. That's because he couldn't when he's been with you all day.

Eleusis · 03/04/2007 14:43

Maybe it's your lovely fresh carpet scent?

ThePrisoner · 03/04/2007 20:04

My minding parents usually comment on the lovely aromatic, lingering smell of potent nappies I've changed during the day! I will be asking them tomorrow if they can smell the chocolate I've sneakily eaten during the day on their children.

AskABusyPerson · 06/04/2007 22:56

Your mindee's mum sounds very insecure and too fixated on the food thing - my dd (4.5yo) eats like a horse but even she'd struggle to get through the list you mentioned on the other thread! The organix cards sound great, maybe you could do a healthy eating theme one day/week and send info home in a subtle 'get your facts right' way?!!

When dd comes home from school there is a 'school smell' which bothers me slightly but only in a 'reminds me where you've been and I wasn't with you' way but I'd never do anything about it! She usually strips off and gets into fairy/ballerina/princess costume (s'okay, I do have spaceman/postman/fireman too to satisfy ofsted!) so the smell goes! If she smelt of someone else's perfume (only person in family who does is 18 yo auntie when she's on a date!) then I'd be fine with it!

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