CM Club: Feeling undervalued! Moan, moan!!

[mogs0]

I had a really difficult week last week with mindee1 and his parents, who are usually really easy, although, frequently disorganised.

Today, mindee2 went home at 4pm (instead of 5.30/6) and mindee1's Dad phoned to come collect at 5.30 (instead of 6) so he could go and meet mindee's mum as a suprise, when he came he said "see you tomorrow". Uh, news to me?! He doesn't come on a Tues. He said he'd get Mum to call this evening and I'm still waiting! So, do I let him come tomorrow or not?

I know I'm not the centre of the universe but I am getting really pi$$ed off with having to hang around for people to call. It was lovely that I had an early finish but I had to bombard both parents with phone calls last week to collect their sick child (it took nearly 2 hours to get through to them), yet today, they can finish early.

Why don't people say, "Hey Mogs, we can see you're working really hard, helping to bring up our darling children, thanks very much!"

I'm feeling very sorry for myself today and it's only Monday!!

Sorry, moan over! I'm going to go and watch Dirty Dancing now and fantasise about being Mrs Patrick Swayze!! Oh crikey, could my life get any sadder???!!!!

mogs0 - why don't you phone them and say you were unaware that you had them tomorrow and you have plans that you cannot break?

Oh and you are doing a really good job and frankly they'd be lost without you! Maybe a reality check is what they need to make them see that. Chin up chuck - Nobody puts mogs0 in the corner!

Thanks for that!!!!

Have turned internet off twice since posting but keep remembering other things I have to do so keep checking MN! Too late for Mr Swayze now, DOH!!!

did they rings Mogs?
i would just carry on as normal, until/unless they ring and if you have something/day of nothing planned, thn say no, not enough notice, have plans.or if you want the money, say its extra as it wasnt an agreed date and you had plans

Did the mindee turn up? I have parents like this who seem to think it's perfectly acceptible to turn up when ever they feel like it. Mindee 1 should have been here at 8, it's now 8.40 and he will either turn up at 8.50 when we leave for school and we will be late while mum gives him lots of hugs and kisses and tells him he's her baby and she loves and more hugs and kisses and cries and more hugs. By which time we will be ready to leave for school at 9.00am, or she will turn up eith him at something like 10 am with no explanation

haha saltrie i have a mum like that

i often have dads say see you tomo and i dont say anything cause normally they are wrong and dont know the days their child comes to me i just say yes by c u soon

saltire, i had that(the late dropping off) one day i left and text mum (no text from her as to why she was late) to say im on way to school, you;ll have to catch me up..mum wasnt pleased, but she hasnt done it again..i wont make my d late for school cos of parents lateness, its one of the reasons i do this job, so i can look after dd too.
why dont you set off a couple of minutes before, youre watch could be fast for all she knows, and ask her to either take her lo to school or drop them when you get back as you cant be late??

Well mindees mum finally called me at 9.05 to say - wait till you hear this - she forgot to stop at my house to drop mindee off, and had got all the way into Dundee before she realised! She passes my front door on the way past, how did she forget? She then had to drive back to me (1/2 hour away) to drop mindee off, then drive back again!
She had actually got to her work, even when she dropped her older child off at his nursery, she hadn't realised she still had mindee in the car.

thank god she didnt go into work and leave him in car!

pinkchick, it wouldn't surprise me if she had! They are the most unorganised people i've ever minded for

She forgot??!! How do you forget that you have your child in the car? That's quite scary, don't you think? Her mind must have really been elsewhere..

i sometimes forget i have dropped dd off and chat to her whilst mi driving, but have never forgot to drop her off!

Her mind is always elsewhere. this is the couple who never turned up last week to collect their child when i had hosp appt and had asked for all parents to pick up early. We had to try and fit his car seat in the car, and i had to take him into the hospital with me - no apology, just "I forgot", this is the mother who forgets her child's lunchbox on a regular basis. She doesn't seem to think about the bigger picture sometimes. Her older son goes to a nursery, he stopped eating his evening meal there, so she stopped sending food for evening meal for mindee. Result is that she picks him up at 6-6.30 and he's starving, but she doesn't want him to have naything after 4.30 because they like to eat as afamily - which is fine but it's ofetn 8pm by the time she gets it cooked, she told me. She has had mindee1 in pull ups since he 8 months old, but he shows no sign of wanting to start potty training.
It's often after 9am whne she appears with him, sometimes she will turn up at 4pm to get him, without any warning

Saltire sounds like a positive reason to be posted. I had another like that, drove me around the bend, gave her notice in the end. Totally unacceptable.

Mog, in my handbook, I state quite clearly ( GRAT BIG BOLD LETTERS) 'that I will leave the house at 8.30 for the school run and then on to the days activities, if you do not phone Childcare will not be available till we return home from our activity.'

They only do it once.

Think you definately need to say something, that is too much and what a shame that you were in this morning to answer the phone! That may have given her the kick she needed! Agree with S E E, you need to have something in your contract, but that won't help this one will it? When is the contract up for renewal?

They phoned last night. Opening sentence was that I wouldn't be needed next Thurs so I can go away early for Easter. So mindee1 is here!

One day I'll be assertive and stand up for myself, just not this day!!

Mindee2's mum has forgotten to drop him off before. She noticed halfway to her dds school!! I'm quite firm about drop off times. If they aren't here by 8.20 they have to catch me up on the way to school. Although, they're not usually late arriving, they're usually late collecting in the evening! We are frequently standing on the front doorstep with coats and shoes on!!