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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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IS IT ME!

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lovemylife · 23/03/2007 09:29

Hi there

Been looking at MN for months but this is first post, so its a shame i having a bit of a moan.

One of my mindees dads announced him and wfe were off for two weeks at easter and really looking forward to some time out...............BUT, i am still having the kids.

Why do people have children

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looneytune · 23/03/2007 09:33

Welcome to MN. Have you seen my threads? If you have you'll probably understand I wonder the same sometimes, especially as baby is sooooo little

crace · 23/03/2007 09:34

That's awful, why aren't they going?? I would have an awful holiday thinking of my little ones back home without me.

I agree with you. Free time is one thing, leaving them for two weeks is another.

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lovemylife · 23/03/2007 09:35

oh no. they not going away, just staying at home?????????????

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hennipenni · 23/03/2007 09:38

Hello lovemylife, i think that happens to us all mostly, although I am off today on full pay....(yippee)

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lovemylife · 23/03/2007 09:38

its the same when one child is ill. parents will have the day off with sick child(begrudgingly) (cant spell) but bring the sibling to me. poor child wants to be home with mum/dad and brother/sister. agh

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ayla99 · 23/03/2007 10:16

Cheer up, you could have got the parents who not only went on holiday without child - they left grandma taking mindie to and from childminders but they didn't want to pay childminder for the childcare during those 2 weeks because the contract said PARENTS holiday - no charge.

!!!!!!

dmo · 23/03/2007 10:21

i always have children when parentstake a week off work
but then get moaned at when i have a week off and they have no holidays left

dont know why as i always but hols off when my boys are off school so we can spend time together

blodwen · 23/03/2007 10:23

Welcome to MN. It is strange isn't it? I have just been reading my son's baby book with him (he is 21 today!) and I couldn't have imagined not having him around as much as possible (and I didn't even go to work!).

dmo · 23/03/2007 10:26

happy birthday balwin boy 21 today

Eleusis · 23/03/2007 10:30

Lovemylife, despite your name, you sound very bitter. Why do you care what the parents are doing so long as you are being paid?

I personally don't choose to go onholiday without my kids. But, then, I can't say the idea of sending them off to childcare while I take a day off from work doesn't appeal to me.

madge7 · 23/03/2007 10:50

One day is different than two weeks!??!?! and yes she is getting paid, but that wasnt the issue anyway - its having two weeks off work and not taking your child out apart from the norm weekend off together....

I dont think she sounds bitter at all?

justaphase · 23/03/2007 11:17

I am currently trying to decide whether to take ds on a long weekend with us or leave him with his gramdparents (who are desperate to spend time with him because they are in a different country).

On one hand I work full time and only see him evenings (when we are both grumpy and tired) and weekends, so I really want to spend every spare minute with him.

On the other hand I have not had an unbroken nights sleep fo 18 months, the idea of a lie in and spending some quality time with dh is so appealing...

It is all about balance really...

However when I see the "oh, why do people have children!" thing from someone who has never had any it makes my blood boil.

madge7 · 23/03/2007 11:21

oooh cheap shot!!
thanks for reminding me!!

crace · 23/03/2007 11:22

I still think the odd weekend away is healthy for every parent. Two weeks away just seems... excessive. I personally couldn't do it, but my children are cool people and I like spending time with them.

I am very much anticipating my weekend away in July - my daughter will be 19 months, and all unbroken sleep. I am really looking forward to it.

Two weeks away though...? And it's the money issue at all.

crace · 23/03/2007 11:23

Sorry, should have said "NOT a money issue"

ssd · 23/03/2007 11:27

its the children I feel sorry for, thats what us childminders mean

of course we are doing a job and getting paid, but when you become attatched to the kids you mind, then hear the parents are at home and not wanting to have the kids at home with them when they are on holiday from work, ( I mean 2 weeks !!)you feel sorry for the wee souls

justaphase · 23/03/2007 11:42

Sorry madge but it really is very hurtful. I have had this said to me (completely different circumstances) and I wanted to strangle the person. I cried myself to sleep that evening. And it was totallly irrational, she knew absolutely nothing about the issues. Sorry, I am rambling, please ignore.

Eleusis · 23/03/2007 11:43

I agree that I would want to spend my holiday with my kids. But, the OP is still a bit harsh.

If I caught my childminder (if I had one) saying something like this about me, I would be most displeased. In fact, I'd probably wonder what else she was saying about me behind my back.

"Why have kids..." comments are so infuriating to anybody, no matter what your choices.

madge7 · 23/03/2007 11:46

dont worry maybe I am a bit touchy about it at the mo...
I dont disagree with parents going off for long weekends or a week, crumbs I have looked after my best freinds three kids when she went to New York with her DH, good on her, definately - I had just as much fun with her kids (maybe not, but you know wot i mean..haha!) but two weeks, that is sooooooo long, but your only thinking of a long weekend, go for it!!! have fun, I know whe my brood do eventually turn up I will be doing the same......

nannyj · 23/03/2007 13:01

Who knows maybe they are doing renovating work in their house. They could be spending quality time with each other, maybe their marriage needs some work? Doesn't seem that odd to me but then again i've nannied for 12 years and seen all sorts.

BradfordMum · 23/03/2007 13:15

I think being a childminder makes you see things from a different perspective. I used to care for a baoy whose mum and dad were bus drivers. Dad did shifts, and mum worked 9 - 7pm. Therefor I had J from 8.30 am to sometimes 8pm.

Mum used to moan if he slept after 3 pm, as this meant he wouldnt go straight to bed when she got home. He was 11 months old when he started and was shattered by 5pm. He slept an hour in the lat morning, but then needed another sleep in the afternoon.. She actually told me that she drove round after she left my house in an evening, to get him to slepp, then she transferred him to bed.

She had no real quality time with him at all.

Very sad IMO.

Sally

star1976 · 23/03/2007 21:30

Well me and DP moved in together 16 months ago, DS is nearly 13months old (do the math) and I have DD(8) and DP has DS(10) from previous relationships! So we have never had even a single night alone together (and no real babysitter either).

So............ my point being...........when our friends get married in Cyprus in September this year, my parents (who live 230 miles away and don't see the kids as often as they would like) are hopefully having the kids so that we can go for 4 days on our own! And, although never been away from DS for more than 8 hours before (hated working weekends cause of it) and will miss him and DD desperately, I can't bloody wait for some FUN and serious alone time for me and DP!

colditz · 23/03/2007 21:33

If you don't agree with people using childminders, why are you a childminder?

AskABusyPerson · 23/03/2007 23:05

Spot on BradfordMum, I know of a friend's mindee in situation just like that where parents only have time with child at weekends.....I guess we're childminders cos we love being with children. I'm not saying parents don't love their children, it's different for childminders as we get so much quality time with our own kids and mindees we can't imagine not having it or much of it!

I was lucky enough not to have to work when we first had dd (and when I did have to start earning money I became a childminder so I could still be with dd), even then it was great for my mum to occasionally have dd for me whilst I eg went shopping or haircut - i.e. the 'me-time' thing. The first weekend away dh and I had was when dd was 18 months old, we had great time but i missed dd dreadfully and all we did was talk about dd!

However going back to the original thread, yes two weeks does seem a long time...

madge7 · 24/03/2007 01:56

colditz!! read alllllll the thread ........... zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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