can i ask if you had one child in nursery and one child with a nanny..

[shinyredbus]

If you see a big difference between your children?

My daughter was 1 when she went to nursery full time - when i went back to work. She is now 3 and is waiting to go into school in September. I have since had a son (8 months) and i am going back to work in September. Because neither me nor my husband can commit daily to the morning school run, we have decided to hire a nanny to help with sharing the school runs/pick ups. Nanny will also look after my son by day.

I am now feeling nervous that my son will not get the same opportunity as my daughter to mix with lots of children - we have lots of baby clubs near us and our nanny knows other nanny's round us who she will meet up with. She will also take him swimming once a week. I fear this is not enough - my daughter has lots of friends and we have made lots of parent-friends as a result of this.

Can i ask if any of you have had a similar experience with your children and how (if different) they have turned out? We might send him into nursery for a day - but my nanny (who happens to still work in a nursery now) says that the children who just go once a week are generally distressed as they hardly know anyone there - because they only go once a week. Am i just over-things/being silly?

Thanks!

No experience of doing this myself, but a good nanny will do plenty of socialisation with other children. Your child will also have 1:1 time when it's needed.

Nannies are usually social creatures :)

At the interview make clear you want the nanny to go out and meet /socialise with other children

Maybe arrange some groups like music - toddler gym while the nanny finds her feet

And yes I agree one day at nursery isn't enough for most children

You are over thinking things 💐

Will the role be full time /3 days a week?

When I started reading your post I assumed it would be the other way around! That you were feeling guilty that nursery might not be as good as having a nanny!

Seriously, I wouldn't worry. If you find a good nanny, your DS will have the best of both worlds.

(I don't have personal experience of this but I know two families who have done exactly what you are proposing and have had absolutely no problems)

Thanks all - to clarify some things;

Nanny will be full time - we will share drop off and pick ups (schedules permitting) and by nanny will be in my home looking after my son.

We've sort of discussed a loose schedule - nanny has agreed to go to classes and swimming once a week.

Yes - we are worried about the one day a week at nursery as well - I suppose I just wanted him to have the same group of friends he sees on a regular basis.

Don't worry about nursery. He will meet up with the same friends at toddler groups, parks, etc and a good nanny will help him maintain these friendships.

He will make friends and see them regularly with a nanny

It's nice you want nanny to be socioable. Some employers don't want that