CM Club - I am SO annoyed!!!!

[star1976]

Been minding a little girl for 3 months now and just found out that someone is trying to poach her from me!!!! This sounds confusing but......

Mindee's mum used to go to a parent and toddler group and still goes on play dates with some of the people she met there. Two sisters go, one of which is a nanny, and they are trying to persuade mindee's mum to change childcare arrangement to her.

Wouldn't be so bad I suppose, but, I now go to the same parent and toddler group with mindee (and DS) so I have met them and they have talked to me and pretended to be friendly!

Mindee is my only one so far and has settled in so well and is really happy here! It is her mum that told me about them trying to persuade her to move her DD, so I know that she has no intention of doing so, but just so appauled that they would do this!

i would be annoyed too but i expect this is the norm, i had a parent at dd's school approach me last week, her ds is with local nursery at minute, but she wanted to see if it would be better with me...i didnt ask her, but i can imagine the girls who drop him off from nursery wouldnt have seen it that way??
i would mention it to them, ask why business is quiet at minute? and when they say its not, say "oh, i thought you were desperate, and thats why you were trying to poach xxx""!!!

Before mindee's mum even met me the nanny in question had apparently suggested she use her for the childcare, yet still she looked for a childminder. Would have thought they would have taken the hint then!

Just riled that's all and now worried that, as they apparently don't seem to care that mindee is happy with me and to move her would upset her, that they start saying that she isn't happy with me.

Anyway spoken to mum tonight and she said that as she was only friends with them as they were a playmate for her DD, she will stop meeting up with them now, as she doesn't see why she should have to justify her childcare choices to anyone !!

I know how you feel there is a new cm near me who has tried to poach one of mindees my very loyal mindee told me . I agree it's very low, shows no interest in the fact the child is happy and settled, and in my opinion makes them appear desperate!

What about a little comradship between childcarers?? Even avon ladies have higher morals than this and don't poach each others clients! Try not to let it bother you the mother is obviously as shocked by this as you are.

I don't see why people can't just be honest and say 'currently looking for mindee's, if any comes your way and you can't take it on please point them in my direction' and vice versa!

If mindee's mum had decided to move her I would have been devastated! She is a lovely little girl and fits in really well with my family (hugs my DD 8yrs whenever we bump into her and her mum at the shops).

Not to mention I am already working weekends in a crappy job cause not earning enough with the one mindee I do have!

exactly star, if this cm had approached me, introduced herself and given me her number I happily would have passed her details on if I had any calls I couldn't take on.

It's the way its been done that is just so rude. Also even tho you know mindee and mum are happy with you it does knock you doesn't it, I still worry about losing mindee to poacher as she too is an unnoficial member of our family!

It's still niggling in the back of my mind even though I know mindee's mum wouldn't have told me if she had any intention of moving her!

Going to find it very hard not to say something when I see them at toddler group on Friday !

ooh id say "oh we were talking about you last week, about how you tried to poach xxxx off me"........and wait...........................................see what level of red her face will turn, smile then walk away

Good idea! I like! May have to do that!