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DILEMMA - PLEASE HELP

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glad2beback · 28/02/2007 22:45

I have a dilemma and want to know what other c/m's would do in this situation. A parent contacted me last week and asked if I had heard anything going on in a neighbours house/garden on that afternoon, The neighbour whose rear garden backs onto mine is also a c/m! I said 'no' as I had been out all afternoon. She then asked if I would be able to look after her children as she had to take them out of this c/m's care immediately. I asked why and she said this c/m's partner had manhandled her 8 yr old daughter while the couple (who appear to have a volatile relationship) were arguing. The c/m was in tears when the parent came to collect her children and said there had been a lot of shouting etc going on during the afternoon.The child told her mum about the incident when they got home. I advised the parent to inform Ofsted and the police as nobody has the right to hurt someone else's child. For her childs sake she didnt want to involve police but if she doesn't inform Ofsted should they know as this c/m is still looking after younger children who can't speak for themselves and should the partner loose his temper again the consequences don't bear thinking about.The c/m has told the parent her partner has moved out but he hasn't as I have seen him still living at the house. What do you all think?

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looneytune · 28/02/2007 22:58

Deffo report it, that is not on at all! Poor kid

hairymclary · 28/02/2007 23:06

yes,. i'd report it.
definitely

glad2beback · 28/02/2007 23:18

Thanks Looneytune, I feel I should report it if the parent hasn't but the c/m is the sort of person who could make life really uncomfortable for me if it came to light that I had reported her. She has a follwing of c/m friends who seem to think she can do no wrong which is infuriating as I know she does. Last Oct my dh saw an 18 mth old baby left unnattended on her kitchen worktop (we can see directly into the back of her house from one of our windows)while she went into the back garden talking to her partner. I was concerned and mentioned it to the child's parent as I know them. Ever since then the c/m has given me black looks and her c/m friends branded me as 'unprofessional' for talking to a parent about a c/m!!! so God knows how she would treat me if I report her to Ofsted. On the other hand should a c/m be allowed to carry on as if nothing's happened after a major incident like this!!

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mykidzrmyworld · 01/03/2007 11:56

she will never know it was u that reported her anyway it is all confidenital!
Def report this women as if this is true she should not be a childminder.

glad2beback · 01/03/2007 19:11

Parent of the child involved has contacted Ofsted today and they are investigating, they are involving the Child Protection team. Other issues have come to light, the children have started saying things to their parents such as the c/m telling the 8 and 6 yr old mindees to take her demanding 3 yr old to a nearby area of grass to play (it is through a walkway and out of sight)on their own to give her some peace from her own child!! The mind boggles!!!

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