Am I being unreasonable?

[justanauntie]

Hi everyone,
I'm 21 years old and have basically been the second parent to my nephew for five years now. This was to allow my older sister to go back to university and then qualify as a nurse. Now she works 3-4 12 hour shifts a week either days or nights and I have to be there to get him into school or at weekends etc, different days each week. I am at uni myself and find myself having to miss classes because of getting him to school etc and I can't get a job due to the random shift patterns she has. She doesn't give me any money towards activities or food etc for him and I use my student loan for this. I just am starting to realise now that I'm missing out on a lot of things due to chchildcare etc which would be reasonable if he was my child. I'm unavailable most nights when uni friends are out because I either have him or will have him from 7 the next morning. I can't schedule a date with my boyfriend without there being some kind of clash or deadline. I really don't want to upset her life but at the same time I'm still young and want to live mine. Sorry for the long post. I'm just wondering if you guys think I am right to be annoyed or if it's best to not mention it

Of course you need to say something.
Say the arrangement you have had no longer works, and, although you'll always be willing to babysit when you are free, you can no longer be his "nanny"

It will be a horrible awkward and difficult conversation but it needs to be had. You are being taken advantage of massively and are basically an unpaid nanny.

I would suggest going out for coffee and saying look I can't do this anymore

Relying family to some extent is normal (I wouldn't expect to be paid for ad hoc babysitting or even regular childcare if I had no commitments). But this is ridiculous. Have the conversation where you explain you can't do this anymore and she needs to put other arrangements in place.