Things with our nanny are not going great - many different issues. Broadly speaking we have decided to move on. We will, of course, give/pay decent notice - actually over and above our contract.
Recently her work has slipped significantly and when I have asked her to do certain things, everyday things that I would expect any nanny to do and are definitely in her contract her response has been “If you don’t like what I do then perhaps you should find someone else”. The first time she said it - I misunderstood that she was perhaps upset and spent time reassuring her that we wanted things to work (this was before we had decided to move on). However now I am sure that she isn’t upset - she just doesn’t want to do what I have asked her.
She has said this to me and also to other members of our household and it upsets me. I find it very arrogant and its causing quite a difficult atmosphere at home. I am now taking her at her word and duly looking for a replacement but she will be working with us until I have done so and I’m finding it really difficult to communicate with her given this attitude. How would you respond to this type of comment from an employee?