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CM Club - Help! New starter today and is he too young to be potty trained?

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madge7 · 07/02/2007 09:53

HI, got a new starter today, he is 2 1/2 and his mum had said he widdles alot, however he has been dry for 2 days? He has obviously only come to me today, I have shown him where the potty is etc, but he wet already (2 hours), I keep saying do you need etc.....worse thing is, mum says at midday i might want to put a nappy on him as he is definately not poo trained yet?

any ideas?

Madge
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mykidzrmyworld · 07/02/2007 10:04

surely its not the best time for u to start potty training...it will be hard enough for him to get used to his new surroundings.
I know its not our place to interfer and you have to go along with what mum wants but i would suggest talking it through with mum

dmo · 07/02/2007 10:15

poor you means your stuck in with a new mindee
good point about new surrounding maybe try in a couple of weeks when he is used to you and the other children

Twoandabump · 07/02/2007 10:25

My ds was dry at 2, and have also done a few mindees at that age, but on the other hand I also have mindees that are no where near ready as well (my other ds was 3 when he became dry)

Could you suggest to mum that has pull ups until ready and settled in, and then maybe put on the loo every hour so that they can go on there still? Seems strange as well having a poo in a nappy rather than the loo.

mattysmummy · 07/02/2007 10:57

Hi Madge, did the new starter come through netmums ad ? I have heard that if you put food colouring in the potty, like red, and they wee it changes colour. could be an insentive for him. . . .

amynnixmum · 07/02/2007 11:03

I think you should suggest that he wears pull ups until he is settled with you. It doesn't sound as if he was properly dry anyway. I think putting a nappy on him for poos but wanting him to wee in the potty is bound to confuse him.

star1976 · 07/02/2007 14:47

I know it is strange but my daughter was happy to wee on her potty for ages before she would do a poo on it. She knew she needed to go but would just not do it till she had a nappy on! Very strange!

mykidzrmyworld · 07/02/2007 18:58

ive know a few children where they only wee on potty and do a number 2 in nappy!
seems strange but u have to work with the individual child

looneytune · 07/02/2007 19:19

My ds had just turned 3 when we did potty training - no way he was ready before. He was the same about poo's, hated the thought of it as he thought it was going to touch him but he was a lot happier once on the toilet. To be honest, after a week of the potty he went straight to the toilet and was a lot happier.

Is it the mum who's asked you to potty train then? Seems a bit odd to START potty training at the same time as going to a new Childminder. I wouldn't be happy having a new mindee start and being brand new at potty training (not because of the mess but because of the pressure on the poor child with the new surroundings!).

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madge7 · 08/02/2007 18:22

Thanks for all your help girlies with this, poor little soul, he had a succesful wee in the potty after my message to you all, but apparently when he went home, there were two further accidents - today he had a lively tum to say the least, so after a very nasty accident, we went with a nappy - (let mum know it, she said it was fine). He has had so much to deal with of late,
he is only 2.5.....I want to support her obviously, but i just think its one thing too much for him at the mo - what will he turn up in tomorrow - knix or nappy???

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madge7 · 08/02/2007 18:24

By the way - MattysMummy - No, it wasnt a response to the advert on netmums, but I have had an enquiry from that, but by that time, I was filled up - it all happened so quickly!!!

Hope your ok, did you go to rhyme time today??

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madge7 · 13/02/2007 09:55

Me again - same thing.
They still keep insisting that we perservere with potty training, they have bought his potty to me now which they seem to think he will use, he used it for his daddy infront of me, but he just wont do it for me, he poos & wees his pants, i ask him if he wants potty.......he declines, and they say he asks for potty, but he doesnt here - help!?!
he dont really know me, i have only had him since last week? Should I insist on pull ups, its not really fair on the other children is it?

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ThePrisoner · 13/02/2007 21:27

I've minded children that will do the business at home or with me, and will do the opposite at home. Fortunately, they were all long-standing mindees and I had a good relationship with all the parents, so we could have have a laugh about how awkward children could be.

Your situation is difficult because this is such a new child. I don't know about being unfair on the other children, but it is certainly unfair on the child himself.

Is there no way the parents will allow you to do things differently for at least a couple of weeks until he has settled in a bit more? You will have to put your Assertive Hat on (says me, who doesn't do "assertive") and say that it is compromising the care of the other children, is trashing your carpet/sofa/will to live, and is upsetting their son (he must be, mustn't he?)

Having said that - when I go out to soft play etc. with a newly-training child, I usually tell the parents that I will be putting a nappy on as the child usually forgets to ask (and add "hope that's OK") - parents have always been fine with that.

Bozza · 13/02/2007 21:30

How ridiculous of the mother to start potty training a child who is starting with a new childminder. I would try and put the argument for nappies until he is settled with you.

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madge7 · 14/02/2007 07:01

Thanks for your replies. Do you know I have this "insert" that is the same theme as his potty they bring to me each day, he went on the toilet with the insert and thought it was very novel, he even wee'd thru it, was so pleased. when i asked him again, he agreed twice to visit the loo, altho nothing happened, so yes - all good there. Am venturing out today tho with them all and was worrying in the night that he would wee whilst we were out......honestly he is only with me for maybe 8 weeks.....

You learn so much on this site, am gutted actually i didnt actually know what a retainer was and i should be charging one really, mum has me dropping ds and dd all over the place to family to care for them etc.....

live and learn dontcha!!!!

I have a full time that wants to start in april, so what do i do?

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