C/M: Ever talk anyone out of coming to see you??

[crace]

Ugh - someone phoned and of course my daughter chose to be extra crabby and crying while I was on the phone. I explained today was on an off day but she said that she was thinking of having someone come to her anyway - but thinking that she just wasn't interested in me!

I use to have prob with my ds when phone rang as he always wanted to speak and scream the place down if it wasnt possible for him to speak.
My way around that was to say it was dad on the phone everytime as he speaks to him all the time he doesnt get interested in the phone now as he thinks it boring old dad.
Have you thought of getting an answer phone and leave it for the machine and then ring bk when possible

If I can't talk, which is usually any time during my working day, I always ask if I can ring back later when we can talk properly.

It is, as you probably already know, a well-known fact that children cry/play-up/need the toilet when Someone Important rings up.

I know - I actually thought I could talk, she was happy and I am not minding at the moment. I start with the new baby on 7-7 on Thurs and Fri, should be interesting!

I just take it personally that she changed from wanting to meet up to wanting someone to come to her. And we live in a small village, so now am paranoid! LOL - I need to get over myself.

why woould she want you to come to her??..she needs to see you in your work environment, your home, your equiptment??..she doesnt know what she wants, get answer phone on so you can talk when kiddies are quiet or explain you are busy and take thier number.
just had call myself tonight while bathing dd and was half watching she didnt drown, while arranging visit!

Many years ago, I had a mum visit with a tiny baby - my 3 minded toddlers turned into absolute monsters.

One of them started playing up, fell over and cut his mouth really badly. I rushed to the loo to clean him up, another mindee started jumping on the settee and fell over the arm head-first (or so this mum told me) ... so, another child with a badly cut mouth.

The mum left very soon afterwards and said something about making alternative childcare arrangements ...

If i can't talk, i will say, it's a busy time, can i call you later?

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TP - thanks for the laugh, I am sure very unfunny to you at the time but it does make me feel better.

Thanks to everyone.

HI
Oh I thought your title read "talk someone out of coming" as in - you WANT to put them off not 'hoped I havent'..
I have a situation - I want to talk them out of coming to see me!
You see I had an enquiry which left me feeling uneasy.... I havent had a Dad call yet and this man just seemed.. odd. He was hesitant answering all questions, like what hours do you require/how old are your children/ the usual stuff.
At first I thought it was a crank call and was guarded but then it seemed more genuine, I mean, of course a single parent (Dad) could call up, but you know when you just sense something is not quite right?!

I am due to call back, to arrange a meeting but of course I will only do this with my DH present, and the enquiry will be asked to bring child along. I feel silly but the person did not seem to answer convincingly those simple details that any parent would not hesitate to know..
Shall I go for it? Or say I'm full now?

I had a dad phone me up and gaily made an appointment for him to come and see me. His wife had taken the first six months off and he was taking the second six off, so their child could be at home with them for the first year.

Anyway after I'd made the appointment, I began to think about it more. If this person wasn't genuine was I putting the children I already minded and myself at risk.

So I decided that if he turned up with the child then I would let him in but if he came on his own I would make an excuse. He did come with the child and the interview went fine. I have decided that in future I will make an appointment with a father when my husband will be in.