I've just hired a new nanny for my 5 month old daughter (been with us one month). We've previously had a maternity nurse for the newborn period and then a nanny who was fired when we found out she had lied about previous experience. During a transition period my best friends nanny helped us out with baby sitting both during days and evenings/nights (she's since been back twice in the last two weeks to help with nights). Everyone who has ever taken care of my girl agrees that she's an easy baby and there has never been any problems with introducing a new person to her. The current nanny came with a lot of experience of babies and small children (checked extensively) including having own children. One month in, my girl still won't have her milk with this nanny without a lot of fussing and there is generally a lot more crying and fussing than we've experienced before - I know babies go through phases but my girl stops crying te moment I come to help (I've tried staying away and watching on our security cameras to check if it's fussing because she can see me and wants my attention but makes no difference). I can't see that this lady does anything wrong - my daughter just doesn't seem to like her enough to settle with her when she's hungry or upset. How long would you keep trying to establish a connection between a child and a new nanny? I expected it to be a few days max as that's my previous experience but this is my first baby so perhaps I'm over confident.
I don't want to try and change nanny just to discover that we have the same problem again and it's a question of just sticking it out but at the same time we're getting close to the point where I need to go back to work and before then I need to be confident that I have a nanny who can take care of my baby. Any views would be appreciated.