Have I given too much in desperation

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Hi...I have offered a job to a nanny (baby at home 2 at school)...she was waying up whether to take my job or another she was offered - the other was longer hours - but gave her an unpaid gap in the day to go to the gym, she has only an off peak memebership...I said well we could resolve this and she could take my baby to the gym ..put her in the creche..a couple of times a week...then afterwards I thought - I could upgrade her gym membership to peak £20/month extra so she could go eves and wkds..but she said "thats great I can do both"...ie take the baby in the day and also go eves/wkds...so she chose us but I feel I have given too much in that its atleast a 2hr roundtrip and if she goes 2-3 times/week it will cost me £40-£60/week for her to wrk out ...probably will have to pay the creche fees also...should I back pedal..and say I will just upgrade ...I was just a bit stumped by her reaction and kind of "..ummmed" which she probably taken as a yes from me...what should I do ??...do other nannies go to the gym in paid work time...or should I just shut up and put up with agreeing to sometinhing in desperation to secure her???

no definetly you shouldnt put up with that. U offered a solution to upgrade and then she take the Mick and says she will do both. That would be a big no no and I would put her straight asap or let her go else where. She has the best deal with u by far. Was she really that good a nanny ?

I definitely think that it should be an "either-or" choice rather than both. My nanny goes to the gym either first thing in the morning or at the end of her day or alternatively on her days off - ie not during working time - as part of a birthday gift for her last year we made a contribution to her membership, but the rest is up to her. It does sound a bit like she is taking advantage of your depseration imo.

Surely the decision ought to be made as to whether this is the right Nanny for you.

If you have any reservations at all, in my opinion you've not got the right one. You ought to be delighted with her, and willing to offer her the world to take care of your children. Anyless that that, and I'd still be looking for the perfect nanny for me.

I think you should say that you have changed your mind and on reflection feel that it is inappropriate that she spends time working out when actually she should be looking after your baby and working for you. Apologise and offer to pay for peak time if you wish but really it is unacceptable and unprofessional for her to be more interested in the gym than your baby. Okay for mums not for nannies!

Thanks for your thoughts -- I will go back and clarify that I will upgrade her membership - as I dont think that it will work with babies sleep times and the work do be done between school drop off and pick up..