CM CLUB - I feel so rude.....

[LoveMyGirls]

The mum of my mindee comes at 1.40ish and leaves between 1.50 and 3pm! im paid til 2pm, i've tried subtle hints they weren't working so today i opened the door and was to the point saying i have another mindee to pick up so would she mind sorting out the car seat while i got her dd ready and then i'd have to go because i've not had any lunch and i need to do a few things before my dd2 wakes up as well before i pick mindee up.

I just feel like 10mins is long enough to chat about her dd's day and then she should make a move to go but i find it hard to get her out the door - sounds awful, i like chatting to her but out of an 11 hour day i have 1 hour to do things that need to be done.

What should i do? without being rude.

lots of times i've thought i've got through to her that i'm busy and dont have time to spend long chatting.

Just tell the truth nicely that whilst you enjoy chatting to her ( may be a white lie I don't know) you have x y and z to do before your dd wakes up and then start doing x y and z. To soften the blow you can start looking at your watch and go OOOh I don't know where the day goes, I really don't, I'd love to chat longer but if I don't get X, Y and Z done I'll be up until midnight, I bet you are really busy too blah blah blah.....

If that doesn't work would it be possible to bill her for the hours that she stays?

If you invoice her you could charge until 3pm for those days and if she queries it then say that you had the mindee in your house until that time. That should stop her wasting your time.

Its really hard, but maybe you could say that you have reviewed some of your policies in the new year and have decided to hand children over on the doorstep, coats on bag ready etc, this time of year as its cold she wont hang around long, I know it seems a bit harsh. The only other thing is to get someone to phone you every day for a week when she os there and say to them just a minute one of my mums is just leaving!!!!! I hate anything like this myself, and as a CM always find it hard with things like this!! Good luck

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The problem is her dd is asleep when she arrives and i feel awful going and waking her up, so we talk about mindees day then she drifts onto talking about other stuff and gets settled.

i had a mindee for 3 yrs and became friends with the mum

mindee left when mum became pg again and decided not to return to work

now mum comes every thurs 10am till 3pm with old mindee and new baby (because mindee misses me)

they live about 1 hr away by car so she does come along way but.........

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If mindee is asleep maybe suggest she pays you an extra hour or so and uses the time for shopping/relaxing/whatever, and then when she comes later mindee will be awake

I really prefer it if she goes at 2pm as i pick up another mindee at 3pm and do the school run, im happy with the hours just not happy with her staying longer just to chat, i get up at 6am and finish at 6pm then see to my kids and sort the house out etc anything i can get done in that hour is less time i am on my feet for later or more quality time with my own kids. It's really not about the money, it's about time being precious the fact i get my own dd out of bed at 2.15 - 2.30 so i can get a few jobs done set up activities for after school and spend time with my own baby or have a bit of a break, cuppa and mn.....

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Yes I see what you mean I think maybe just be honest and tell her you really need that time to get on, not easy I know, I am sure she will understand and maybe she doesnt realise that she is being a pain. Although I dont go for that line i believe people do know. Good luck

sometimes baby only had an hour and is awake by 1.30, those days i can get on quicker. i think its the fact mum is lonely and wants a chat, i like the fact she feels she can chat to me she obviously feels comfortable in my home and is pleased with the care i give her dd and we have plenty of opportunity to air anything that needs sorting, i dont want to offend her by being too blunt, she seems very sensitive. I've got a new family coming today to visit me at 2pm so i really hope she doesnt hang around or that will be very awkward. My mum came the other day at 1.45 so she could look after my kids while i popped into town and she still stayed about 15mins even tho my mum was here and i said i was going into town. I've got another family coming to visit at the same time next friday as well - friday is my early finish day so have no excuse not to chat just that its my early finish day after a hard week and i should be allowed to shut the door and relax.