childminder has dd but I'm chilling at home...

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Hello all,
I pay my childminder a set, monthly fee for my 5 year old dd. Sometimes i have a few days annual leave from work but my childminder still does school drop-off/ pick up.
Is this wrong to be at home, or having some me-time whilst my childminder has dd???
I know this sounds really paranoid but i even try to avoid going out, in case i pass her in the local shops!
But my main question is, can i just be honest and tell her im at home doing f-all? She often asks how my work day was and i find myself lying, saying i was busy at work
I mean, shes getting paid but im worried she will think, "lazy cow. Take your own kid to school".
Likewise today, im off sick from work but embarrassed to tell childminder I've been in all day whilst she's doing the school run for me .

While I do agree that parents should have time to themselves, especially if they're paying for care, in my situation it really is taking the mick - as a nanny who works almost every weekend (unpaid but promised a day off), and then being made to work on her day off, it pisses me off seeing my boss staying in bed all day on her day off hungover while I tend to the kids. I barely get any time off, and the one day she should spend with the dc's, here I am getting up at 5am because one of them is crying and she won't get up to console them(due to being drunk). So if you're a good parent who works hard and really care for your kids - go ahead, if you're paying for care, absolutely enjoy your day and do stuff you usually wouldn't be able to. But if you're taking the piss out of your cm/nanny, then no

My DS thinks you should stay at home and rest without children at regular intervals.

Anon2309 your situation is vastly different. Comparisons are nebulous.
Op
I can't understand why you a toss what anyone thinks tbh. I couldn't careless what my childminder thought about me personally. I pick up on time, pay promptly, give a nice present, say thanks and provide her with well behaved (ish)
children who respect her home. If I choose to masturbate all day at home while they're there, well that's my call.

@llhj.. masturbating? That is hilarious and made my day! I'm not really sure why i care.. i dunno if its because she looks knackered and stressed from long hours when i pick up dd. Then often looks exhausted. Likewise, cm paid on time. Picked up on time (ish...working on that).
Or whether its my minor worry of being judged.
Also like someone mentioned, my cm is in demand as well

Say you're sick if you're sick.

I occasionally have a day off and still leave with DS with nanny and I wouldn't lie about going to work (I'm a terrible liar), but I would just say that I have some errands to run and things to catch up on (those things could be meeting the bank manager, buying clothes for DS...or they could be catching up on gossip in magazines at the hairdressers, or more likely a combination of both). You don't need to get specific on what you're catching up on.

Hm. I would definitely not be amused by constant lateness though, you should stop 'working' on that and just make sure you're punctual.

I think it's great to have some me time. Im a SAHM but have a nanny for a few hours a week and just get jobs done, have a walk to the shops, whatever. I find I can much better play with the kids and enjoy them.

It would be better to have an honest relationship with the CM though. She spends all day looking after kids so will understand!