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nanny needing fertility treatment please help

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pinkdaffodil23 · 02/01/2016 18:45

Hi lovelies I really need some help and I wasn't to sure where to get opinions. I was hoping someone here might be able to help me.
I'm a nanny to 3 children 2 are at school 1 is not :)
I have been with the children now as a full time nanny for 4 years.
I'm in a situation at the moment and I'm not to sure what to do. We have recently found out that I have polycystic ovaries, after trying for a baby for the last year. I'm on fertility treatment to make me ovulate and try and help us get pregnant as I don't have a cycle on my own. On the treatment I have to go back for scans each cycle starting at day 12, how many scans I have depends on how I respond. So far I've not had to say anything to my boss cause but I'm not starting another cycle and am back to the scans in a weeks time and I'm not sure how I'm going to play it this month.
I was adamant I wasn't going to say anything, shes always said that im not allowed to have children until her children are all at school, but I don't want to wait that long, although I might not even be pregnant by then depending how I respond to this treatment. If I get pregnant I plan or returning to work with baby obviously I'd have to discuss that with my boss but I'm 95% sure that she would agree.
My predicament I now have is whether I say anything to her or not? I don't no what to do for the best. I don't want to tell her what's going in and her go distant and it ruin the atmosphere but I'm struggling to keep making up reasons. I have a scan a week on Monday, after that I'll need a couple more this cycle but I don't know dates or times until each appointment before which makes it really hard.
please help

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christinarossetti · 08/01/2016 21:55

Best of luck pinkdaffodil - hope that it goes well for you.

pinkdaffodil23 · 09/01/2016 16:34

Thanks my fingers are tightly crossed, been feeling really stessed the past few days but need to try and chill out a little lol

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Blondeshavemorefun · 11/01/2016 09:26

If it's today. Hope all Goes well

Elsie212 · 11/01/2016 21:36

I would urge you not to.

I worked for 20 years as a nanny & thought I could trust my employers but it turned out that I couldn't.

I kept them in the loop out of respect for them and the female boss calculated (from the info I had given) when my official test day would be.

She made me 'redundant' on day 13 of the 2 week wait.

So there I was....unemployable with no financial security whilst pregnant and I couldn't sue for pregnancy discrimination because in the eyes of the law she didn't officially know i was pregnant.

I have been to an appointment where patients have taken youngsters & it makes a tough time even tougher. As a result the clinic now don't allow children due to its detrimental psychological effect.

A very negative post from me I'm afraid.

If I had my time again I'd keep it as my business & wouldn't be so open.

Wishing you success Flowers

Blondeshavemorefun · 11/01/2016 21:52

What a horrible mb :(

The 2ww is hell - all the signs and symptoms could be pregnant or could
Be due to period coming

Ahhhhhhhh

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