Creating harmony???

[luciemule]

I've recently started looking after an aquaintence's two children as a favour to my friend who was looking after them. I'm not a childminder but just take them and pick them up from school with my child. However, they aren't very well behaved and them being at our house is effecting my daughter. She even said to their face that she hated them and doesn't want them to come anymore! She's not usually like this but is resenting them big time. I'm feeling now that I shouldn't have offered as my own children are suffering. It wouldn't so bad if they respected me but they don't listen to a word I say and they completely trash my little girl's bedroom (although this week I've not allowed them in there). Anyone got any ideas how to make the time with them and my own children more harmonious - otherwise I'll have to let their parents down by saying I can't do it any longer. I'll feel so guilty saying I can't do it anymore after such a short time.

Lucie, don't know how old all the kids are but could you have a chat with them re behaviour and what's on and what's not. I looked after a neighbour's boy who insisted he would not be able to have tea with the telly off until I explained I would not be able to have to have tea with it on. It could just be down to different parenting styles.

I'd also try to find out whether there is anything you can all do together that would keep them happy. Failing the friendly chat and groundrules, I think I would put my family's happiness first and end the arrangement - maybe with a little notice. I would explain to the parents that the kids don't get on that well and that it is putting pressure on your own family. Good luck!

thank you - that kind of backs up my own thoughts. I don't think dark nights and rainy weather help, otherwise they could all go outside and play and let off the excess energy! The kids are nearly 5 and I don't think 3 girls is a great mix. It's such a tight schedule from getting back from school and preparing tea before they leave that it's hard for me to play with them continuously, although I do suggest things for them all to do. To be honest I wouldn't care if they just sat and watched tv but they even argue over what they're going to watch. I can't seem to win. My daughter woke up this morning and the first thing she asked was "are they coming today?" So I think I kind of know what I've got to do.

I personally wouldnt put up with that from any child especially when your doing it as a favour. I would say sorry to the parents but that you can no longer do it. Either mention there bad behaviour or tell a fib if you cant tell them the truth and say you now have other committements.
It is totally unfair for your daughter to have to go through this! (IMO)