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Nanny's parking ticket - should i pay?

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balancingact · 05/12/2006 14:09

she got a parking ticket when taking my dd to nursery. she has been with us for 3 months and has been really lovely. should i offer to pay for this ? will she be expecting me to? i just don't want to set a precedent.....what is fair?

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dmo · 05/12/2006 14:16

dont think you should as she parked the car
she shouldnt really park it in a danger place anyway

if you feel guily pay half

WigWamBahhumbug · 05/12/2006 14:17

I wouldn't expect to have to pay a nanny's parking ticket - unless you specifically instructed her to park where she shouldn't?

PrincessPeaHead · 05/12/2006 14:19

did she get it because she parked where she shouldn't, or did she get it because eg her time ran out on the meter because nursery came out late?

If the latter you should pay it (but ask her to make sure she puts enough money in the meter to cover delays) if the former either don't pay it, or pay it just this time but tell her you won't pay for any more if she parks illegally.

Depends how hardline you want to be.

IWhoooooshYouamerryXmas · 05/12/2006 14:19

For the sake of harmony,I would offer to pay on this occasion but warn her that any more will be down to her.Unless of course there is nowhere for her to park without risking a ticket-unlikely I guess.

Had something similar this weeekend with our nanny-though a good deal more expensive.She had the nanny car at the weekend staying withe her boyfirend and came out Sunday morning to find some b*stard had kicked the wing mirror off.Car is brand new and I know it will be about £200 to repair.She very kindly offered but I declined and said on this occasion I would cover it.

Cwmbranchildminder · 05/12/2006 14:20

why did she get ticket? is there not suitable parking? was she bein lazy ?

balancingact · 05/12/2006 14:25

to drop off my daughter, you need to buy a ticket - the place is safe enough it's just that it's literally a 2 minute drop off, if that so we don't bother even when we have done the school runs before. but welcome to clapham, and some nasty warden jumped out and gave her a ticket while taking dd (3 yrs) inside).

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wrappingpaperBOwZZAndribbons · 05/12/2006 14:27

So did you instruct nanny not to bother getting a ticket?

uwila · 05/12/2006 14:42

I'd pay half this time, but tell her that it will be her responsibility to pay any future tickets.

Out of curiosity, how do they know who parked the car? If you don't do anything, who will get fined?

RTKangaSANTAMummy · 05/12/2006 14:45

so it is in A pay and display car park and you recommend her not to bother getting a P&D thingy

And to chance it for a few mins

BUT this time she gfot caught

imho if this is the case ie you suggested that was what to do

then i think you should pay all of it

balancingact · 05/12/2006 14:50

TBH, i haven't really thought about it - we changed nannies in Sept - and i don't know what the old nanny used to do . Whilst on maternity leave, i went with new nanny a few times to nursery, and stayed in the car with the baby while she dropped DD off (or she stayed and i took DD in), so obviously, didn't get ticket then. I don't drive so am hopeless with these things. So does this mean i should just instruct her to get tickets all the time now - for when dropping DD off and picking her up? I guess this is what people normally do? Cheaper than chancing it and getting occasionally i suppose!
The nursery is at the end of a cul de sac so pretty safe..

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Glitterygookwithchocsonthetree · 05/12/2006 14:50

I wouldn't. She parked it somewhere she shouldn't and that's her problem, you've got no control over where she parks.

batters · 05/12/2006 14:53

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Twiglett · 05/12/2006 14:53

um if she's been told not to buy a parking ticket by either you or previous nanny then yes you should pay for it

I think you should pay for it personally and then decide for yourself whether you want to gamble on her not getting another one or tell her to buy parking tickets .. in that case you'll probably have to make sure she has the right time every time

oh and if its pay and display and she really was gone a minute or 2 then you can argue that she was going to the pay box to get a ticket / or to get change to get a ticket

LittleSarah · 05/12/2006 14:54

Well I don't how it works but would you pay for the pay and display tickets if the nanny is taking dd to nursery? And if you haven't given her money or discussed it then I would think you should probably pay it.

uwila · 05/12/2006 15:25

LittleSarah, the usual thing would be for the employer to pay for the pay and siplay tickets for sure. It might come out of kitty of weekly spending cash, but it wouldn't come out of the nanny's pocket.

I think I agree with Kanga (hey, first time for everything). If you explicity instructed or even advised nanny not to bother with the pay and display ticket, then you should pay the ticket. However, if you explicity told her that she should get a ticket, then she she pay the ticket. If you didn't say either way and she took it upon herself not to get a ticket, then I'd say 50/50 would be a suitable split to ensure it doesn't happen again.

Also, I wonder, is driving the most appropriate means of transportation to the nursery? Do you live more than a mile from the school? Could they walk? Take the bus? My nanny travels by bus anywhere in greater London for £55 per month (which of course I pay).

bossykate · 05/12/2006 15:35

clapham wardens take no prisoners. i got clamped once while i was visiting the doctors surgery. i was 8m pregnant at the time and blubbed solidly until the bloke came to release me - he didn't know where to look! but it was a fair cop - i'd chanced it and got caught. think if you need to pay to drop off then you should give the nanny p&d money as part of her "kitty" for the week as others have said. i think a 50/50 split this time with instructions to p&d in future...

is it really too far to walk?

which nursery is it?

RTKangaSANTAMummy · 05/12/2006 15:41

uwila

Has she just arrived in UK or is she british?

Cos she may not realise what the rules are about P&D

Also what do the other nannies/parents who go to the nursery do?

Do they P&D or chance it?

What happens at pick up?

IMHO unless you have given her money for the P&D before this happened then it is your responsibility to pay cos otherwise how would she have been paying for it???

I think it is a traffic warden who had walked into the carpark and realised it was a drop off time and so targeted the parents etc. as easy prey.

WonderCod · 05/12/2006 15:41

UWILAA

LOOK ME IN TH EYE

NO

twelvedaysofchristmas · 05/12/2006 15:46

Was she driving your car or hers? Obv if it's yours you want it sorted asap.

Out of kindness, I would offer to pay half, and find out if there is anywhere she can legally park nearby, so you know it won't happen again. Therefore there will be no precedent.

ParanoidSurreyHousewife · 05/12/2006 15:53

Surely you would know whether you have been reimursing her for daily P&D tickets? If you haven't then I think that you should pay. In any event you seem to be very unsure as to what you expect your nanny to do, so I suggest that you ensure that you have a clear policy. If you were with her and she didn't P&D and you didn't comment then I would suggest that she sees that to be acceptable to you.

balancingact · 05/12/2006 16:29

thanks for the advice girls, i will pay it this time and tell her now that we shall P&D - i haven't been giving her p&d tickets - tbh, it just never occurred to me - as my DD has been going to that nursery since jan and this is the first time it happened - so nearly a year!
oh bossykate, it's Bringing up Baby - off silverthorne road. i don't mind saying!
Normally, i agree with bus, but i have a 9 month old (very fat son, and i don't really and a phil and ted that is not comfortable most times for both of them - and with the weather being what it is, i would rather she just drove. We live near clapham common/south end, which locals would know will be a bit of a walk. Choice of nursery was due to a best mate of DD who goes there, for those curious why i didn't choose something locally (oh and the fact that the 2 i visited were quite dirty - maybe just a bad day/time when i was there so not really fair, but there you go!).

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uwila · 05/12/2006 16:31

Cod, I will not look you in the eye. You scare me.

bossykate · 05/12/2006 18:38

that is a fair old step and w/o convenient bus route. i would think parking is a mare round there too. btw, elm park nursery on clarence ave is much nearer where you are and you wouldn't have to p&d for drop off. pls tell me it wasn't one of the dirty ones you visited! dd goes there and ds before her and it has always been clean imho!

batters · 05/12/2006 18:52

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bossykate · 05/12/2006 18:54

i'd call it a bit of a hike anyway

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