Hello, my aupair started last week so maybe it is too soon to judge. My previous aupair was outstanding and everything just clicked. The current one has not done anything wrong as such, but we do not click. He is not engaging with children and looks quite passive. He displayed a massive can-do attitude when hiring and I thought he will be committed. Well he is... only at a very basic level. Also he feels somehow too mature (he is 28) and not fun at all. My boys try to be nice but as he is not engaging, they then resort to ignore him and sort their own thing. He came to improve his English and his future goal is not children related, I wonder if this is my oversight.
He is just a basic babysitter so far. My previous aupair was a big brother.
One more thing. DH is a crap "mcdonald" father to our boys (divorce is in the sight), he does not engage with them at all and generally a lazy sod, and the current aupair seems so much in the same line that I am afraid I will start to resent them equally.
I wonder what to do. Should I keep him because he has not done anything wrong per se? Or would you give him a notice (for resembling my H to much?)? If notice, on what grounds? A week is certainly too early but I feel the things are not exactly right. WWYD?