PLEASE HELP ADVICE from an experienced mum!

[sasa15]

I found a nice girl in the same area where I live
that can do babysitting some night if I want to go out.
Ds (2.5) is a very sensitive boy and I never left him
with anyone apart my mother...for few hours...or at nursery ....
I was wondering how may days will take to him to get use to the idea he can stay in the house with a stranger without us....
I would leave him sleeping (at night)...so he probably won't realise...but just in case he wake up----what 's the best way to start...
Shall I call the babysitter one hour a day for few weeks....?
We haven't been out for the last 2 years...I guess only 4 times in 2 years...and we like to go out and haveing fun at least once a month...
But it's so hard to leave the boy.....

error...I mean...how many days...

BUMP

BUMP

If I were you I would invite the girl round for dinner or after dinner maybe a couple of nights and let her be there for your sons bedtime routine, so he is used to her being there when he goes to bed.

Maybe even let her put him to bed a couple of times whilst you are downstairs.

Once he seems happy with this I would try to leave her alone with him. Maybe pop to the shop or something once he is ready for bed and be back just before he goes to sleep.

IMO he has to have some experience of being alone with her in case he does wake up whilst your out. If he sees you trust her he should (hopefully) do the same.

Agree with star. If you leave him with her after he goes to bed and does wake up to find only her there, he might be very unhappy about it. And if he tend to be tired and cranky and bedtime (as 2 year olds often are) I might also introduce her to play time earlier in the day when he is in a good mood. Maybe meet you at the park?

You mention nursery. Does he go to nursery every day? If so, he might not be quite so shocked by the idea of being cared for by someone else.

invite her over for a brew
children like people who are their mum and dads friends

As my dh is RAF we've had a few babysitters due to us moving or them .

I always try and find out who their parents are too!!! My bs is 17 and she came round 4ish the first time to meet the kids, then popped by to say hello to them when walking the dog then came on bed time and helped us put them to bed so in all the children spent a good few hours with her before I leave them to look after my babies LOL 2&4 now teehee

Go with you heart if not happy with them say no. I remember one person ask if we had a computer errr, never did go with them (even though I'm an addict)

hth
Emma

Hi babyfox...why didin't you like the idea of a baby sitter use computer?
I've got a laptop in the kitchen she could use to read her emails........

That came across snooty sorry!! As it was one of the first things they had to ask us it didn't feel right. Maybe about the children etc. but hi I'm X ' do you have a computer? LOL

xx