CM Club: how do you stop yourself being ratty with your own kids when you've had a houseful of mindees ALL day????

[ssd]

I'm finding myself moaning at my 2 instead of listening to them talk about school. It's cos I've had moaning kids all day on at me!!

How do you cope?

mine are 5 and 8 yrs.

don't tell me to get another job, I can't afford it.

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I feel really crap for not having much patience with my own 2.

And the monetary rewards so aren't worth it, if I could find something else that fitted in with school I'd jump at it. But in my area there is nothing.

Oh well hope I feel different tomorrow!

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ssd are you new to cming?

No!

I've been doing it part time for nearly 4 years.

I think it's just that I've taken on some new mindees and one of them is particularly difficult IYKWIM! I find myself all wound up at the end of the day when my 2 return home, not a good situation. Will have to work on it and remind myself I'M the adult here!!

Maybe the new child doesn't fit in with the group?

It's a difficult decision to make (& maybe it's too soon) - but sometimes it is necessary

I know the feeling and have just ended a child who left me feeling like that with my DD

I used to get like this when i had older children. Now though i find i am getting ratty with DS1 as he is always trying to lift the two younger mindees i have - 1 is 2 and a 1/2 the other is not quite 2 - and every time i tunr round he's there trying to lift him, or give him cuddles!

it sounds like its the new mindee getting to you then doesnt it? maybe its just the adjustment period your going thro settling a new one in is very stressfull particually if they arent an "easy" child.
im settling a baby in at the mo and like you find im getting stressed out with my ds's,altho they are 14 and 16 and seems they just want to know whats for tea as soon as tehy get it!!!

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im not great on the baby subject as im only just settling in new baby but seems to be getting pretty settled after 2 weeks,ive worked in baby unit of nursery nad some used to take months to settle! different enviroment than a cms house tho!

bit better today, I've tried harder with my 2!

I just find unless I "click" with a child they easily wind me up - probably says more to do with me than them IYSWIM!

Money wise I can't just let go any child who does wind me, have to try to deal with it better.

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agree with you there happymum. it's just impossible finding anything term time that compares £ wise. Teaching assistants or playgroup worker get about £4-5 an hour round here, would need to work 5 days to make what I earn in 3.

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