Sacking the Aupair - do we owe her holiday pay?

[Muminahurry0]

Our Aupair has gone home for a holiday. When we emptied the bins we found an excessive number of wine bottles and other items there. She has confessed to having a party while we were away for the weekend.
We believe we can sack her for gross misconduct and she is not entitled to notice, pay especially holiday pay. Can you give us any advice please? Thanks

From a nanny point of view I see that her having a party without asking was not on. I always ask if I can have friends over etc.

But the fact that she has cleaned up after herself and owned up to it, makes me wonder if your being a tad unreasonable.

She should of asked yes' but it's hardly grounds for sacking the girl and causing her of being an alcoholic and denying her holiday pay.

'The memories'

I'm not sure what you've told us would constitute gross misconduct.

She's not an employee, so the notice period and holidays would depend on what you have agreed and written on her letter of introduction. She will need to come back anyway and get her things and say goodbye to her friends.

I missed Muminahurry0's reply but I'm thinking it probably wasn't the most pleasant (thanks to AlternativeTenatacles for giving us the gist,much appreciated).

Strange how some people react so strongly to peoples opinions/advice,when they have specifically asked for them.Anyone would think they were only prepared to be told how perfectly right they were

Glad I never had to work for this particular 'employer'/

So you are sacking her as you think she had a party due to bottles of booze and 4 beer cans - while you were away

Then you say you think she is drinking alone and as knows no one and not fit to drive your children about

Which is it?

Unopened chocolate ? Wouldn't be any left if had a party with my friends

You need to sit down and have a proper chat - not assume stuff - but either way yes she gets paid holiday

It sounds like the au pair would be much better of with another family. It is pointless for the OP to have a discussion when she obviously has made her mind up. If she was keeping that poor girl, you can imagine how uncomfortable the life situation would be.

Please OP don't slag her off to her agency just because you dislike her. Part on good terms, arrange what is best regarding her belongings (if she is going with another family, sending her stuff back to her might not be the cheapest or best way for anyone)

Good luck with the next girl.

Wow poor girl. Pay her holiday (and extra for having to put up with you! You "gave" her time off for being ill WTF??!)
Give her a good reference (as your the one with the problem, not her) then move on.

Unopened chocolate is probably cause she was leaving for holidays and was clearing her room of food items.

The way you post OP makes me want to have a drink and it's only 10am,