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Stressed!- help me decide on childminder

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Seaside99 · 07/04/2015 11:31

I am finding it really hard to chose a childminder for my son. There isn't a lot of choice in the area and I have been lucky to find two childminders with space, but I cannot decide which one. I tend to over analyse things and worry about making the best choice for him. Both childminders are ofsted registered, their references were good and have been childminding for the same amount of time. My son will be going 4 nights a week for after school care (he will be in reception). A summary of the two

Childminder 1: has three daughters one of which will be in same year as my son, she has a dog, not walkable to school and a little less practical for us for pick up, tidy, up together house and well organised. She was good at getting across her enjoyment of working with children.

Childminder 2: has two sons (7 and 10), walkable to school, didn't come across as overly warm but her children were very nice, house not so well kept, it was hard to read her

My thoughts are I like 1 but the dog is a bit of a concern (son gets v nervous round them), it's all girls- will he get bored in the long run? But she will have child in same year. With 2 she will be better from a location perspective, he will have boys to play with. We didn't gell but mainly as it was hard to get much out of her/she wasn't selling herself- but her children were very nice which says a lot about someone. With 1 she seemed more warm (possibly too soft) but 2 would be more firm (which I don't necessarily see as a bad thing). So as you can see I am muddled! It's the boy v girl thing that seems to be concerning me as worried in long term he will be bored or not have playmates with similar interests. Help! (Be gentle with me as I am thoroughly stressed out!)

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TeddyBear5 · 07/04/2015 11:51

I would try not to think too much about a childminders own children. Mine have always enjoyed playing with the other children but they do have their own friends to go outside with and their bedroom to retreat to. They are friendly but it's not their job to entertain my mindees and I don't force them to.

jendot2 · 07/04/2015 13:17

I would go with 1, warm and interested and loves her job. Girls will be better at playing with a younger boy and the reception girl of the same age is a bonus.
I am a cm and my boys are older.... They don't play with the younger mindees that much, they scoot off to their rooms. A 7 and 10yr old won't have that much in common with a reception child.

HSMMaCM · 07/04/2015 13:30

Agreed. I wouldn't worry about the girl/ boy thing too much.

eeyore12 · 07/04/2015 15:32

And you can always have a friend back to play at yours on the 5th night for the boy playmate.

Seaside99 · 07/04/2015 17:11

Thanks everyone. All helpful comments. I have decided to go with no 1- just get a good feeling about her and don't feel so worried now about the boy girl thing

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CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 07/04/2015 17:25

Always best to go with your gut feeling in this sort of situation IMO

selly24 · 07/04/2015 18:56

As a Nanny I am so pleased you went with 1. Sounds great. Really hope this will 've a good fit for you all. With the dog, it Will 've a good chance for your DS to get used to one and am sure he will play and enjoy himself with the girls

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