Child thinks childminder is the devil...help!

[funnypeculiar]

c/m words not mine!!

DS (2.7) and dd (7 months) go to a childminder - ds has been going for about 4 months, loves it, settled brilliantly. Dd has been going for a month or so, and screams the house down. The whole time (pretty much) apart from when eating...Doesn't take her milk very well, resisits sleep, you name it. She is the easiest, happiest little girl normally, and fairly relaxed about going to other people (although has never been away from me, except with dh) - none of us were expecting this!! Once I get there, she's all smiles immeadiately.

They only go 2 days a week, so c/m suggested trying an hour/two a day to try and acclimitise her slowly ...which we'll be trying next week. Any other ideas??? Please??? Has anyone else experienced this ... & how long did it take? I'm working from home and have been able to be flexible, but my workload's picking up now...

[HappyMumof2]

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[funnypeculiar]

No sorry, ds has been there 4 months, dd only 1 month. Blimey, am hoping we won't still be in this situation 3 months in...

CM has tried taking her out (she's better then), picking her up from here, me staying there(she's fine til I leave), carrying her facing outwards so she can't see her

[Katymac]

Can you leave a jumper or top (unwashed) that smells like you with her

[funnypeculiar]

good idea, katymac (although hope you're not suggesting I stink??)

[Katymac]

Only of lovely mummy smells

[amphion]

I had one who started about his age who only came to me for two days per week and I'm afraid he never really settled - used to scream something rotten in the morning when left but did sort of get better during the day though was still grumpy. Luckily the mum changed her hours and didn't need me any more - . I think some even at this age definitely don't want to be left with someone they don't consider family (he was ok with his grandma), whereas others are fine with it. I think the problem was with his age of starting and that it wasn't enough days.

[RTKangaMummy]

imho it is the age or nearly {cos usually 9 months old} of separation anxieity

So your DD is advanced

what about her going there for an hour a day and then increase it so for shorter time but more often iyswim

[funnypeculiar]

thanks amphion - although not what i want to hear, tbh...so nothing helped much with your mindee??

lol kanga ... and, yes, started compaining when I left the room a few weeks ago, but had been ok recently.

Had hoped that we'd miss the separation anxiety phase by starting a bit early, but hadn't banked on my child being sooo advanced. will try the hour a day every day approach next week. pita, though!

[amphion]

I think having him full-time for a week he would have become bonded with me, but really, with 2 days it never really worked. I tried holding him etc (and I'm nice - other mindees love it here). I told his mum what he was like and kept trying -he was here for about 5 months.

[funnypeculiar]

Sure you're very nice, Ampion - as is our c/m! Interested in your fulltime suggestion -seems very logical, although feels a bit horrid to put both dh & c/m through it!!

Anyone else out there in the evening crowd ...surely I'm not the only p/ter??!

[HappyMumof2]

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[HappyMumof2]

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[funnypeculiar]

Tues and Thurs....prob not ideal, as c/m and I discussed this arvo...!