cm club - Had enough of mindee refusing to do as he's told

[LoveMyGirls]

i need some advice and solutions as to what to do with mindee (3yrs)

he refuses to do as he's told, is very argumentative even though i don't argue back, im very matter of fact and disapline is stickers for good behaviour and time out for bad.

he has started refusing to move whilst on the school run, wont wash soap off his hands etc. spitting at and punching my dd1.

other more exp cm's have commented that they don't envy me. am i doing something wrong? is there more i can do? many thanks

spitting and punching?!
that is very very wrong and i would def have a chat with his parents.
do they back you up with discipline?
do they allow that sort of behaviour at home?
its difficult to know what to do if your methods are having no affect on him,but i would certainly stick to your guns.
how long has mindee been with you?

ive been looking after him for about 5 months, i've just had a chat with his mum and she is shocked too as he doesnt behave like that at home, his mum is very strict and would smack him and send him to bed if he tried doing any of that behaviour with her. she has told me to be stricter with him if i need to (which she thinks i do) she told me she really appreciates me and that i do alot of activities with him and am the the best cm he's had. she says he has answered her back in an argumentative manner and she has discaplined him immediately.
at least now i've hada chat with his parents i feel better about it all, if the only thing i've done "wrong" is be too soft.

the first couple of months he was an angel then he was off for 2 weeks and i have been having problems since then really. it has got worse.
i dont want to shout at him or be on at him all the time. so what can i do?
btw he can be in time out for 30mins maybe more as he is stubborn, he also refuses to accept he's done anything wrong.

eg, i saw you spit in xxx's face you need to go on the spot until you can say sorry and you won't do it again.

mindee will - "i didnt do it!!!!!" (in agressive manner)

then 10mins later after repeatedly being asked if hes ready to apologise he will come and say a very heartfelt sorry and give cuddles.

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Sorry, got no advice I'm afraid as I don't have any of that behaviour from my mindees. I do, however, have a lier but it's getting better since they were told I have a secret hidden camera in my lounge!!

i do have a camara in my lounge that i can from the kitchen

I read that as Misdee doing as she is told!

Ok today i almost gave in and rang his mum to come and get him

fed up.

other sm's have asked, does he have adhd? do you give him foods with additives in?

i cant really say what he does exactly apart from refusing to do as he's told, spitting, punching and general racing round at a million miles an hour.

You have to wonder how much time parents have spent with him talking, reading, doing things with him etc? I think if mindees have not had this at home then really hard for the childminder as these children don't seem to be socialised - they do seem to run around, be 'naughty' and have short attention spans.