Hi, everyone. I am asking for advice on behalf of a friend who's not on Mumsnet. She and her husband know a very nice young woman who will start working for them as an Au Pair soon. Her kids (2 and 4), husband & her really like the girl. One of the things the AP's agreed to do is baby-sit at night once or twice a week while they go out. Whilst discussing details of the arrangement recently (she will be starting in a couple of months), she told them she's got a boyfriend. They seem to be very close and apparently serious, although the relationship is only a few months old. Now, my friend's husband is concerned that this guy will "have access" to their children. His job as a psychiatrist has brought him into contact with victims of abuse, and he says it's often someone seemingly very nice who targets people who have/ work with young children. So I told my friends I'd ask you Mumsnetters to suggest ways they can ensure the Au Pair's boyfriend isn't around their kids (for example, if she were to go out with them and he meets her somewhere, or if she lets him come over while they're out and she's baby-sitting). I told them maybe they need to look into ways of specifying it in her contract. Also the husband suggested webcams, what do you think? Any advice will be most grateful and passed on to my friend. Thank you in advance.