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How much extra to ask for...

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lovebeingananny · 27/10/2014 08:30

I have a 2nd interview today, with a lovely young couple. The role was for one baby, live in and 8 til 7.30

Since interviewing for it, the role has changed slightly. In that they would like to do a share, with one of their friends for 3 of the days. Baby same age.

I am happy in principle but just wandered how much more to ask for. I don't want to sound greedy, but at the same time, it is more work and always more difficult dealing with 2 families. Especially holidays etc!

I have done a share before, but it was live out! So not sure how to work out pay on this one. It will be based at the one house. So only nursery duties for one of the families.

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Cindy34 · 27/10/2014 09:01

10% perhaps. It is not every day an you are live-in, so a bit more complicated but not that much.

Were they offering a good salary for your area when it was just care of their baby?

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 27/10/2014 13:09

Have they asked you if you would be interested in a nanny share or do you think they are assuming it will be at the same rate?

Chances are that both families are first time nanny hirers and are fairly clueless of the fitfalls of a nanny share [holiday co-ordination etc]. It is in your interests to set out your expectations to both families.

I'd expect to pay about an additional 2 per hour gross for a nannyshare for the hours which are relevant.

Depends on the initial rate they are offering you though. If I were paying top of the market I wouldn't necessarily expect to pay more because I have two children.

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lovebeingananny · 27/10/2014 13:30

Thanks for the replies.

First interview was for a job with just one family. So they can afford to hire me on their own. BUT since then they have had a friend of a friend ask if they would like to do a share. I'm sure it appeals to them because it will cut their costs. Which is fine.

As I have already done a share I know the 'issues' that can arise.

If it was a single boss having another child, I would not expect more. But as its a share it means another set of parents, and just makes the job slightly harder work. I'm more than happy to do the share, in fact I'd enjoy it. But I think the pay they have offered is fine for just their baby, but I think a little more for the days I have 2 is realistic. I certainly wouldn't expect much more.

Will discuss at interview tonight.

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schlafenfreude · 27/10/2014 13:51

I agree that in principle a little extra per hour that you have both is fair. 20-25% gross is standard IMO.

OhReallyDear · 27/10/2014 14:35

The difference for a nanny share is generally 20% net more.

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lovebeingananny · 27/10/2014 14:57

Thanks for all the replies. Means I can go to this interview with realistic amounts in mind.

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NeDeLaMer · 28/10/2014 03:43

How did it go? I was going to reply to your Op but realise you will have already had your meeting!

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lovebeingananny · 28/10/2014 06:42

It went REALLY well. The two mums had met up earlier in the day to chat about things.

When the subject of pay was mentioned, she asked what I was thinking. Then she suggested another £50 a week gross, on top of what she had originally offered.

Which I would be more than happy with.

So today I will meet the other half of the share. Things sounding very positive. Although I also have another family that I'm seeing for a 2nd interview. So looks like I might have a decision to make before long!

Then just to decide when it's the right time to mention previous health issues........but that's a whole other topic.

Thanks for all the advice x

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NeDeLaMer · 28/10/2014 09:04

I'm pleased it went so well :)

I hope you like the share Mum/parents - let us know how it goes!

If it were me I would have wanted more than £50 gross for 3 days. It is a lot more work, a lot more juggling and all the rest. But, you have done it before so you know what you are in for. Just don't forget to get holiday leave sorted (who chooses, how much notice etc) before you sign the contract. There's a lot they probably haven't thought about - so you will need to have a good think - holiday, car seats, double buggy, sleep times & how flexible they each are about where their child sleeps (cot/car/buggy) and where the '2nd' child is going to sleep when you are at the 'home', food (can cause huge issues if they have very different ideals), which activities they each want them to go to. Then they need to think about who is funding nappies, wipes, meals, snacks. OK I'll stop now, let's just say, never, ever again for me What sound so easy, lovely and simple just rarely works out that way.

When is your second interview with the other family - today?

At this stage which job would you most like?

How likely are your previous heath issues likely to affect you now? What are they? (obviously don't say if you don't want to!!)

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lovebeingananny · 28/10/2014 09:21

Hi NeDe

They were already offering a good salary for Live In, so that little extra is fine with me. Especially as I won't be doing any nursery duties for baby 2, as its all based at the one house.

I've always enjoyed looking after more than one child. Plus what I like about this couple, is that I know they can afford me without the share, so IF it didn't work out, I would hopefully still have a job with them. Plus they want someone long term, which suits me!

The other interview is tomorrow morning. According to the agency the mum really likes me! She was lovely, little baby was adorable. There's also an older child who I will meet on Wed. It seems a lovely job, although pay isn't quite as good, and it's in a completely different area to what I'm used to! But a great area for nannies.

As for the health stuff. It's dealt with, as far as I know. I still need regular check ups, every 3 months. But hopefully that's it. Although I have developed Lymphodema in my arm/hand. It's very mild at the moment and hopefully won't get any worse, but I will definitely check that out, before I accept either job (if I'm offered them)

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NeDeLaMer · 28/10/2014 10:17

Oh dear, it looks like you might have a really tough decision on your hands!
Are you in London?

Re your health (sorry you have been through such a rough time ) - if it were me and I was offered the job, I would tell them that I would like to accept the job, but before being able to do that I would like to meet with them again asap to discuss a personal issue. I would be completely honest and open about what I had been through, what I still needed to do and about the Ly. Some might say they don't have a right to know, but I think with nannying they do, especially if you are going to be living in. It's also a good opportunity to discuss things like taking the baby to any drs appts/check ups etc

My friend has Ly and we were looking at this website the other day - you have probably seen it but just in case you haven't LINK we both though it was quite good.

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lovebeingananny · 28/10/2014 10:30

Thanks for the link. It's a great site. Also thanks for the advice on when/how to mention the health stuff. I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable keeping it from them. But at the same time, don't want to scare them off. I'm trying to get as much info as I can on Ly so I can reassure them and myself that it won't be an issue! Xx

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Littlef00t · 28/10/2014 10:44

Legally if they offer you the job the cannot then rescind the offer based on you disclosing your health issues.

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