Nanny mileage

[CreakingCrumpet]

I read a thread on AIBU about nanny employers being tight about money.
My previous nanny employer changed from being wonderful employer to questioning every mile I drove. This really destroyed our relationship.
I NEVER did a journey I didn't have to. I was meticulous in recording mileage to one decimal point.
Breaking point for me came when I did a journey to a class and drove the only route I was familiar with. MB worked out the mileage using navigation app. I had apparently done an extra 10 miles. She left calculations out for me to see. I felt she should have asked me my route and then suggested another one.
Relationships with MB so important. I was fortunate to find another job within days of deciding I had had enough. Resignation then went in. MB then worked out I owed her hours etc. final 6 weeks were absolute nightmare.
I really vet my potential employers now!!

It's a trust issue. Parents need to trust their nanny not to take advantage. Once trust goes, the relationship brakes down. So it is important to discuss things if parents or nanny feels things are not as they should be as neither really wants the relationship to end.

I think I disagree with you Nick (though in a very respectful way!) about neither party wanting the relationship to end. I think quite often the parent does want the relationship to end, consciously or unconsciously. I have a number of nanny friends and there often seems to be a common theme when things go pear shaped - parent seems resentful or jealous of the nanny/carer spending time with the DCs and looks for fault where there is none, or none that couldn't be sorted easily, or their requirements get more and more demanding, then when the relationship goes to pieces they have a pretext for taking over (or for getting somebody else who they think the DC will be less attached to). Not always, obviously, but worth thinking about I feel when parent becomes increasingly critical or mistrustful, what is really going on?

I agree with you there Jinxxx, if a parent wants the relationship to end then it may be a way of pushing the nanny to resign, rather than going through formal dismissal procedure.

I suppose it depends how long the journey is. The drive to my daughters last school was between 2-4 miles depending on which way you went, traffic, having to use back roads etc. so yes, if you'd charged me 10 miles mileage one way I would have raised eyebrows, if you'd regularly charged 10 miles for the round trip I would definitely want to know which way you're going. If the round trip was 30 miles and you did an extra 10 then not such an issue, but still an extra 10 miles is a lot, that's an hour in London traffic!

Green, it was on one occasion. New class parent wanted me to try out. Anyway in the past now.