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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Childminders son a terror

10 replies

murphy36 · 04/10/2014 10:59

Childminders son has just started school or preschool - he's 3 I think.

He's apparently become a nightmare, I've seen him throw a tantrum and hit his mum. I've also seen him go to, but not actually hit my DS, he was told off.

I like my childminder and the home setting, but... concerned about my DS, any advice?

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countrybump · 04/10/2014 11:04

Tantrums are normal in a three year old. And he was prevented from hitting your son. Why are you concerned?

MarieSarah · 04/10/2014 12:29

If you are really worried about your son being pushed/hit once by another child, you have to pay a nanny and tell her to never go to a playgroup.

Or else just get over it, the childminder did react and stop her child, your precious child wasn't hurt, these things happens when there is more than one child in a room ;)

Allisgood1 · 04/10/2014 12:32

He's not a "terror". He's 3. Gah.

Crowen85 · 04/10/2014 12:35

A three year old throwing a tantrum is pretty normal. And the childminder was able to stop him. Sounds like the childminder is in control etc.

HSMMaCM · 04/10/2014 13:58

Sounds like she has it under control. Very normal for a child of that age.

drinkyourmilk · 04/10/2014 15:34

It's natural to want to keep your children out of harms way. How approachable is your childminder? Can you just ask what her policy on behaviour management is? She will be painfully aware of how her son is behaving and any impact it could have on her business.

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murphy36 · 04/10/2014 19:58

I'm not very good at approaching her, it always sounds like I'm having a go about, or I think I am. My partners is much better with her.

I'm sure/hope she has it under control, but will prob get partner to ask.

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Karoleann · 04/10/2014 21:16

I'm not sure that your partner asking will be that useful. Most toddlers have tantrums, so she'll either think you're being very PFB or if there is an issue with her son she'll just be very defensive and brush it off.
If you are worried, I'd just come home a bit early one evening and ask to come into her house to ask her advice on something (eating/potty training etc), then observe the children playing.

Cullercoats88 · 05/10/2014 08:53

It happens to all children, especially if he is going through a big change like nursery/preschool. He is only 3, one day your child may go through the same.

Try to not let it play on your mind, support your CM. You don't need to have a word about anything. As PP why not arrange a day when you can go around and have a chat about two month check/impending holidays/potty training or whatever and observe.

I'm sure if it was your child doing the hitting you would want empathy. Good luck!

Blondeshavemorefun · 05/10/2014 09:54

3yrd have tantrums. So do 1yrs to 11/12yrs at times. It's normal

The cm prevented and dealt with the situation

No need to speak to her unless her dc does hit yours and am sure the cm will sort it out

One day your child may be doing the hitting pushing biting etc

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