HI, I am new here and found the site trying to work out my dilema. I have one DS 3 1/2 who started nursery (after failed attempt last yr at diff one) two weeks ago, as well as at a chilminder who picks him up 2 of the days. He was going to the CM once a week for the summer with no real probs but in the last 10 days both the CM and nursery teacher have been pulling me aside to say thta dan has bit, hit, pinched and kicked on occaision. The main victims seem to be a girl with special needs (whom he tells me tonight is his best friend at nursery) and the childminders own DS (same age,also slight SPN). Each incident is a one off, and he is disciplined, says sorry and all is well, until today. He apparntly bit the little girl without provacation and refused to say sorry and showed zero remorse. I felt totally belittled by the nursery teacher and ended crying myself.....dumb ass!! He syas he did it cause she hits him, but NStaff say no, never.
DS has been cared for by family up to now and I think it is attention seeking and am afraid they are not praising enough but quick to jump on him when bad.And we have come down really hard on him, but what if it's simply trying to get the kids/adults attention? Also CM and him seemed close in the summer....hugs at end of day, sitting on knee while talking to me and cuddling(ripped my heart out that one mind) but she has suddenly gone really cold with him and didn't look at or aknowledge me or him at nursery pick up today.
I feel as though they are saying that I am a bad mother and that I am raising a terrorist or something....surley it is a settling period while he learns to play and socialise with children not just adults and although I need to know about it, do they really need to make such a big deal????? I mean I am paying them at the end of the day, any sugestions???