I recently posted on childcare.co .uk looking for after school nanny for my two autistic children. I messaged a nanny asking if she was interested in my vacancy. The reply said that I should consider getting a young live in nanny so my children could bond with her. I was pretty pissed off with this because surely if I had the money and space I would obviously prefer to have a full time live in nanny?? The fact that I am looking for an after school nanny makes it pretty clear that like most mums I am looking for childcare and am on a budget, so don't really have the luxury of finding a live in nanny for my children to bond with! Maybe I am being over sensitive, but am stressed out trying to earn money and care for two disabled children and feel judged by a stranger for not having the money for a full time nanny. Aibu?