Is this just insensitive or aibu?

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I recently posted on childcare.co .uk looking for after school nanny for my two autistic children. I messaged a nanny asking if she was interested in my vacancy. The reply said that I should consider getting a young live in nanny so my children could bond with her. I was pretty pissed off with this because surely if I had the money and space I would obviously prefer to have a full time live in nanny?? The fact that I am looking for an after school nanny makes it pretty clear that like most mums I am looking for childcare and am on a budget, so don't really have the luxury of finding a live in nanny for my children to bond with! Maybe I am being over sensitive, but am stressed out trying to earn money and care for two disabled children and feel judged by a stranger for not having the money for a full time nanny. Aibu?

I don't think (without seeing the exchanges) that she was judging you, more making a suggestion (presumably based on her professional opinion) on what might be the best option for you and your children

It's a bit off of her, a young live-in nanny? Does she not think that nannies can bond with children if only in after school jobs? Or if they're older?

She wasn't to know you don't have the money for a live-in She probably just wasn't interested in the job but wanted to reply with a suggestion.